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Overcoming Procrastination Part 3
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10 Ways To Climb That Mountain (Goal)
Posted by: | CommentsDaily we are given mountains of tasks to accomplish, bills to pay, problems to fix and customers to call. Standing at the base looking up this mountain of to-dos seems enormous – or worse yet standing on top looking down the sheer drop we would encounter should we falter.
It is sheer madness. How on earth are we going to accomplish this feat? Mountains are big; let us climb this one…
- IS IT REALLY A MOUNTAIN? OR IS IT THAT YOU ONLY SEE A MOUNTAIN?
The task before you could be a 2500-meter climb, a 10,000-meter race, to organize next motivational seminar, buy a pallet of goods or to just keep to your schedule in order to please an important client. In either of these cases, the task before you is indeed a mountain if that is what you see in it!- Take a good look at what lies ahead of you. Let us say you have a relatively short amount of time to organize a meeting for your boss. If the first thing that pops into your head is that you probably will not achieve it in time, therein lies the problem. Without this pre-conception, your job is a simple undertaking. However, when you have convinced yourself it is not possible, you have just created Mt. Fuji when only a moment earlier it was mere baseball mound
- Give yourself some credit. You did not get to where you are now by selling yourself short! Bring the baseball mound back.
- GO AROUND THE MOUNTAIN
It is important to do some research first. There are always many possible answers to the one single problem. We all know it is easier to work our way around the hill rather than to tackle the peak itself. Is the goal to climb to the peak or simply to get to the other side?- If your destination is just to get to the other side then adjust your plan accordingly. Conserve your energy for those things that are indeed closer to your heart.
- DO YOU REALLY NEED TO CLIMB THE MOUNTAIN?
This is very important here. Be overly honest with yourself. Why are you going to climb this mountain? Is it because deep down you really want to accomplish this feat or is it to please somebody else? This is probably the most important issue here. If you climb for the wrong reasons the chances are, at worst, you will fail; and at best, you will have a feeling of being unfulfilled from within.- Do not do everything simply to please someone else. It will severely deflate you. You are the most important person in the world. Treat yourself with the respect you deserve. If you do not, others may infinitely be pressing your buttons
- If you have wanted to get to the peak of this hill then for heavens sake go there and achieve it. The feeling will be exhilarating. If you are indifferent, then find your niche. You will have to seek it out, as it is highly unlikely that it will find you.
- DO NOT DO IT ALONE!
A group of individuals with the same common goal has a habit of drawing incredible power and strength from one another. Plan your trip carefully with experienced mountaineers. A team with the same target has a much greater chance of success than a lone ranger with summit fever.- In relation to your professional life, it is important that you seek out as much knowledge and professional advice as possible from the wealth of information available from others. Tap into as many different success formulae as you can. Educate yourself in your field, even to the point of immersing yourself into it! Become an expert. Even if you are already an expert in your field there are always mountains (pardon the pun) of new material regularly released that will assist you in your endeavors.
- YOU HAVE ALREADY REACHED THE MOUNTAIN PEAK IN YOUR MIND
This is an important training exercise. As you envision, in your mind, the goal (i.e. in this case reaching the summit) as already being achieved, you will sub-consciously adjust your surroundings to make getting there substantially easier.- Visions of success will increase your confidence and therefore your chances of success. Put a goal sheet on your wall, beside your desk, inside your cap, in your wallet, purse…anywhere! Anyway they will be visible to you.
- START CLIMBING FROM THE BEST ACCESS POINT
Experience has shown that the journey will be easier when you start from as close as possible to your goal. Prepare thoroughly. In a nutshell be PT’d (prepared thoroughly) for everything you do.- When thoroughly prepared you will have created answers to problems that have at this time not developed into problems, but will be easily recognizable and solvable if and when they transpire.
- OKAY, YOU HAVE DECIDED TO CLIMB, BUT REMEMBER CLIMBING IS FUN!
You have decided to climb the hill. There is only one lifetime and therefore no time for regrets. Enjoy your climb. If you do not you should not really be there in the first place.- Enjoy what you do, always!
- PLAN FOR EVERY CONTINGENCY
It is always good to be prepared for anything that can potentially happen. Plan ahead and cover all your options. It may seem nit-picking but every parachutist, every motor car racer, virtually every professional will plan for all situations. It is not much point realizing what you need WHEN you need it. Sometimes WHEN you need it, is TOO late and you will go splat. - TRAVEL LIGHTLY
This is straightforward. What you take with you, you will need to carry. There is not much chance of an industrial strength hair drier coming in handy on a way to the top of Mt. Fugi. So, do not take one.- In a business sense, make sure your home life stays in balance with your business life. If you have issues developing on the home front due to your lack of attention to it, your output will indeed be impeded. This will weigh you down and have the same effect a laden backpack would
- Give your mind a break. Do not fill your backpack with non-necessities… Free your mind of these weights by keeping a work/life balance. When those times creep up that require burning some midnight oil. Let the family know – a supportive family will understand the need of extra hours for those special projects and upcoming important clients. Especially when you have been treating them like the most important client you will ever have. (Cause you know they are!)
- ENJOY THE VIEW
You will pass through incredible heights during your journey. Make them memorable; this is a marvelous feat you are accomplishing. Realize it for what it is and you will enjoy it and gain an incredible amount of strength from your accomplishment.
Then once you are about to reach the peak of your current ‘mountain’, start to plan your next rewarding achievement…and start the successful ascent of that goal as well.
Think Successfully & Take Action.
Tracy
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Posted by: | CommentsGoal Setting for Success: 5 Tips to Map Out Crystal Clear Goals
Posted by: | CommentsIt doesn’t matter whether you are setting goals for your personal life, for your business, your health or even your spirituality – mapping out clear, concise goals is the first key to successfully achieving them. Without clear goals you quite probably will end up misdirected on what is that you want to achieve. This misdirection could easily lead you down the path of stagnation.
• Crystal Clear goals will give you significant motivation, increased momentum and intensify purpose in your life.
Here are five major tips to help you define those crystal clear goals for your life or business:
Be aware of what you want to achieve. First and foremost, if you want to define crystal clear goals, you need to know exactly what you want to achieve – where you want to be, what you want to have and what you want to do. You will never figure out to get there – if you do not know where THERE is.
Once you know where you want to be and what you want to achieve, you’ll be able to come up with the goals that will help you get there.
• Where what to be in 1, 3, 5 and 10 years from now?
• What kind of work do you want to be doing?
• What kind of relationship do you want to be in?
• Where do you want to live?
These are just a few idea starters for you….
• Take the time to sit down and brainstorm your long-term dreams and desires.
Set the Clock. A goal without a deadline is a wish or a dream that will easily evaporate like the morning dew when the light of day sets across it. Setting deadlines will thwart procrastination and urge you into action to meet your goals. Having a timeline for your goals also helps to clarify them because now not only do you know what you want but you also know when you want it by!
• Come up with goals that you want to meet in a month, year, and even five or ten years from now.
• Nest some small goals together chronologically to form a the achievement of a larger goal: Example: I will walk 3x a week starting this week, I jog 1 mile a week by x/x/2009, I run 5 miles a week by x/x/2009, I do 3 hrs of cardio a week by x/x/2009, I run 5 miles a day by x/x/2009. All of these could be leading up to a larger goal of “I will run my first marathon by x/x/2010.” – you get the picure
• Create a MAP (Massive Action Plan) to keep you on track, BUT, don’t etch your map in stone! Allow for modifications along the way, but always keep your eye ever focused on the primary goal.
Keep it real. With realistic goals, you can all but guarantee that you will be able to achieve all that you desire. Set yourself a goal that is just a little bit outside of your reach… then when you reach it you will be able to reach out farther for the next one. This way you won’t stress yourself out trying to accomplish something that’s out of reach. A clear goal is a realistic one, make it a stretch goal (do not be too easy on yourself) but certainly make it attainable.
• Like I noted above you will want to break down long-term goals into smaller goals and smaller goal into bite sized, achievable action steps. Completing action steps and tasks towards your goals will give you a feeling of accomplishment and motivate you to continue your journey towards your major goal.
Be Crystal Clear. Specify your goals with the details of exactly what you want. Avoid vague generalities. Make it so that you handed a stranger a piece of paper that hand your one sentence goal written on it, they would know exactly what you were trying to achieve. Also, they would be able to tell if you have achieved it already or now. When you make a specific goal, you’ll be better able to accomplish it – not to mention you will know WHEN you have accomplished it.
• Specific goals allow you to form your timeline and define your action steps. There’s no guesswork involved when dealing with specifics.
• Example, “make money online” is way too vague a goal. You would need to come up with a specific goal, such as, “I make $1,000 more per month, by x/x/2009.” This goal is specific, measurable, and realistic. Also, please note the tense of the goal. It is written in the positive present tense.
Review and Refine your goals. Your life will go through change, so would should your goals remain constant. If you think about it, when you were younger you thought and believed things that today you may not. You have changed as a result of inputs, actions and activities that have gone on in your life. So too may your goals change as your life changes. During this review and refining process, discard goals you no longer long for, and reprioritize those you do. Again, make them more specific, realistic, and achievable.
• It’s okay to refine your goals several times in your life! What’s important this very minute, might not be as important to you nine months or nine years from this very minute. Accept change, heck, even embrace it. Revisit your goals from at minimum once a year and make new plans if necessary.
Many flounder through life, unsure of what they want to achieve or what their purpose is. That will not be you! Give your life crystal clear meaning by putting some thought into what is important to you. What goals do you want to achieve? What actions are you going to take to make your dreams of today your reality tomorrow?
Well what are you waiting for? Go…..
Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Success Coach
& Author of Success Atlas Goals Programs
Three Tips for Goal Setting
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Posted by: | CommentsDiscovering Happiness in Your Life
Posted by: | CommentsIf there is one thing that I have learned in my 40+ years on this planet, it is that: Happiness is a choice. I am serious, It is VERY true! The choice is yours – You can choose to:
- let life’s circumstances get you down
or you can choose to: - be happy no matter what challenges life brings you overcome
What I find that most people do not know is the fact that happiness is already within each and every one of us. We, as a human race, are born to be naturally happy! I mean think about it for a moment; have you ever noticed how infectious the sound of a baby’s giggle is? Or, if someone is having a serious belly laugh, you know the kind I am talking about, they are laughing so hard their eyes are watering and they can not speak. Those two simple things, bring a smile to your face – if even for a moment. However, for some reason, as we get older, we loose sight of the happiness that resides inside us, we forget where to find that happiness within ourselves and, instead, allow outside forces to determine our happiness. Forces like, our job, a spouse, a sibling, money, cars, a house or other such tangible items. Do not get me wrong all of these things can bring a level of happiness into your life, BUT if your not first looking inside for your happiness then the happiness these materialistic items will bring will be short lived – shorter than even the warranty some come with.
So, with all that said, let me give you six tips that will enable you to discover your own happiness from within:
- When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Cliché, I know, however even the cliché can be oh so true. You do not have to let the troubles in your life and problems get you so down that you forgot the good that still resides in it – no matter how small it may seem. I mean lets face it, there will always be troubles, large and small, because no one is perfect, but YOU can choose your reaction to situations. Look at the positive side of things, even if that positive is nothing more then a lesson learned. At first it you might have work hard to see the good in people and circumstances, but it will be time well spent and it will turn your perspective from one of doom and gloom to one of possibilities.
- Find something you love to do and do it. Do you have a lifelong dream or desire? If so, start working toward it – NOW, even if you have to start doing it for free. Taking baby steps towards a dream or goal will help you feel like you’re accomplishing something. This feeling of accomplishment will fuel your drive and determination to reach that goal especially when it’s something you love to do. I loved to speak in public – so I contact every service organization in my town and in the surrounding towns to offer a free speech – some said “No.” However many said yes. I shared a message I was passionate about, help educate others on the topic and built my skills – soon I was getting paid for the same thing I was doing for free. Find your passion and go for it – it will fuel your desire, drive and happiness like nothing you can imagine!
- Do you have a gift or talent you’re not using? One reason so many people are unhappy is that they’re not doing what they’re called to do with their God-given talents. Each and every one of us has a purpose in life. You have natural gifts and talents to help you achieve your purpose, so use your gifts effectively! Here is a key – your talents are something you are naturally good at even if you have not honed them yet. Do you have some thing you have a ‘nack’ for? Then perhaps that is a natural talent you need to give some attention to. Also this usually links back to #2, and it is something that you enjoy doing (even if others thing you shouldn’t be doing it).
- When you’re feeling down, don’t wallow in your sorrows alone; do something about it. Call a friend who you know is positive and cheerful. Talk about your thoughts, and feelings, ten listen to their advice. So often, people allow themselves to go deeper and deeper into self-pity or depression because they think it has to be that way. The truth is, you don’t have to be sad and you should not be. You can decide to be happy. You just have to make up your minds to do so. Again, do not get me wrong – things will happen that make you sad, and at times you need to go through those feelings. The key phrase is “to go THROUGH” the feelings – not get mired down in them. A perfect example I remember back some years ago; I had a good friend whose girl friend left him. He was quite upset and asked if I would chat with him. Of course, happily I met him down at a local restaurant and we ate a good meal has some great discussions about his relationship and what potentially went wrong. But as the evening wore on he drink another drink, and another and another. He began to share his heartbreak story with anyone that would listen, wallowing in the feelings rather than coming out the other side. Of course the next morning, he was still along, heartbroken and now he had a hang over to boot. We tried again a few days later – this time at a place with no alcohol and I’m happy to say had came through his feelings much easier then with a little coaching and support he was back in the dating scene and met a wonderful young lady a couple months later.
- Think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Often we get so caught up in what is going wrong with our life that we forget to look at what is right and working. Pause, take a step back and review on your life as a whole. How far have you come from, say, six months to a year or even five years ago?
- Do you have children, family and/or friends to be thankful for? If they are like mine, they are not always everything we would like them to be, BUT imagining a life without them empty. So, be thankful that you have them in your life.
- Do you have a job? Okay maybe it is not your dream job, but in today’s economy, those of us who have a job should be thankful for it.
- What about your health, your home, or some of the more simplistic things we often take for granted – like the ability to see. Enabling you to read this very article. To hear the birds chirp “good morning,” to speak and say “I love you” to those special people in your life.
- When you’re feeling down, journal your thoughts and feelings. Often you’ll find that just getting your feelings down on paper will allow you to work through them, helping you to feel better about yourself and your beautiful life! Also, you might notice a trend if you journal regularly. I had a friend that I was coaching and as he reviewed his journaling entries, he noticed that entries made on the day he met with an old buddy of his were far more negative then any others. His friend was jaded by all the troubles in his life and was using my friend as a venting post to offload all his troubles on my friend. This was obviously having a negative impact on my friend, so he slowly spent less and less time with this negative influence and found he days remained far more positive. Later he let his friend know that he could not spend such time with him if he was going to be a “negative Nel.”
If you’ve been prone to look at life negatively, then you’ll have to put more effort into seeing and choosing happiness. But don’t let that stop you from being happy! You, too, can learn to be happy.
Practice the steps above and train yourself and your mind to focus intensely on the positives. Never ignore the realities when focusing on the positive. Rather choose to not wallow in the negative. When you feel a negative thought coming on, or your mind gravitates toward the negative, learn to recognize it, stop it in its tracks, and then turn your attention to the more positive aspects of the situation.
Starting from this moment onward, make the conscious choice to be happy!
Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://WriteYourSuccessStory.com
Three More Ways to Stay Positive
Posted by: | Comments‘The first step of reaching a goal to is clearly define it, down to the last detail.’
– Tracy Brinkmann
The best way I have found to keep positive is to minimize the bumps in the road. One of key things you can to reduce the turbulence along your flight to success is to take the wheel on the suggestive factors in your surroundings. Take control of the things you are seeing, listening to and exposing yourself to. Insure that these factors are consistently aligned with the goals you want to achieve in your life.
1 – Learn, Learn and Learn
Gain information in areas that will move you towards your goals. Attend seminars; learn from those that have gone before you. Take additional courses and learn everything you possibly can. Find someone that has done what you want to do (or even part of what you want to do) and model them. Read their book(s), listen to them live, read their articles, write them letters. Invite them to a lunch, get their advice. You can cut months and even years off your trip to success by listening to and modeling your actions after those that have proven track records in areas that are vital to your success.
One great way of learning is audio programs. Listen to educational and motivational programs in your car. The average person drives over 12,000 miles annually. That could be from 500 to 1,000 hours per year that you spend in your car, usually listening to music or someone else’s opinion on politics, the weather and the news. You can quickly become an expert in your area of interest by simply turning off the radio and putting on some educational material instead. You are going to be in the car anyway – why not turn it into a university on wheels. I know of an interpreter then currently know 4 languages and is learning a 5th. Each of these languages he learned in his car. You can even take your audio learning one step farther and listen to them while you are doing yard work, while you are painting the fence or going for a jog.
2 – See What You Want To Be
Every evening before you lay your head down to rest, and the first thing after your pick it up, picture your goals as already reached. Imagine your goals as though they already existed. Doing this will trigger your subconscious mind to see opportunities you might otherwise miss, and afford you the control to respond rather than react when life does not go the way you want it to. However, your mind will only be activated when you feed it these affirmations and pictures in the present tense. See your goal vividly, feel it, smell it, taste it as if you were living it in that very moment before you go to sleep, then again when you wake up. Picture yourself performing at your best. While this may seem like an odd technique, it is not. This technique is used by many Olympians and pro athletes the world over. They have lived that winning shot, jump or sprint thousands of times before the first time they actually execute it. You can put this same winning technique to work for you by imagining the situation you are facing, and seeing it working out just the way you want it to.
Picture yourself living the level of success you want to enjoy. See yourself with the kind of family relationships you desire, the level of fitness you wish to enjoy. Picture yourself cruising down the road in your dream car. Pulling up to that perfect house and parking that dream car in the garage. Whatever it is your heart desires – feed it all the mental pictures of how you want it to be every night before you go to sleep, then again when you awake. This will do wonders for your attitude and for enabling your creative intellect to naturally come up with solutions that will permit your imagined picture to become a reality.
3 – Fly With Eagles
I remember having a t-shirt when I was a teenage that said “It is hard to soar with the eagles when you fly with the turkeys.” This is so very true on many levels. You need to associate primarily with like-minded, positive and success oriented people. Find a group of winners and soar with them. If you loose your job, who do you think is going to help you deal with that and find another one. The group of unemployed folks down at the local pub, complaining about the job market and their situations? Or, a group of positive success oriented people getting together to network and locate new opportunities? While the answer is obvious, many people do not take that obvious answer and make it a part of their action plan.
You can not fly with the eagles if you scratch with those turkeys. Get away from the go no where types and most certainly get away from negative people. Wean yourself as quickly as possible away from negative people. They have a way of siphoning the positive energy from you and setting you adrift on a course you would rather not be on. Associating with negative people on a regular basis is enough to lead you to a life of underachievement, failure and frustration. So, only associate with positive thinking men and women!
Time To Take Action
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Right now decide what one area or topic that you would like to increase your knowledge in. Once you have decided on the topic – find a book, seminar or course on that topic and get it. Then apply yourself to learning it. You will feel better for having done so. This will feed your desire to read the next book, attend the next seminar or take the next course. Creating an upward attitudinal spiral that you will enjoy! There is a great eCourse at http://WriteYourSuccessStory.com that will get you started on a unique way to creatively design the life you desire and deserve.
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Turn your car into automobile university. Turn off the radio more and listen to those tapes and CDs that will feed your mind and pull you towards your goals. You will more about your chosen topic and take your focus off the frustrating traffic in front of you. You can also use an MP3 player for those times your doing other tasks that would leave your mind free to absorb more educational and motivational material. Once upon a time I did not like to work in the yard – these days I pop in some Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy or any of my other favorite speakers and I’m off to happily trim the bushes and mow the lawn. Try it –it works!
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Shift your group of friends from the negative thinkers to the positive ones. Resolve to associate with optimistic people as much as you possibly can. Associate with winners and move away from those negative, criticizing, complainers that will suck the energy you need to get you to your goals. This one act can have as much impact on your life as any another other step you will ever take.
Think Successfully and Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://WriteYourSuccessStory.com
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Beliefs=Abandon or Action – You Choose!
Posted by: | Comments‘One guarantee life give us is this: For every problem or challenged overcome – another will better one will be given to us to face. That is how life insures that we grow.’
– Tracy Brinkmann
Attitude ranks high on the list of things that drive what action you take or do not take. Your attitude is molded by the things you think about during the majority of your waking hours, as well as your deep seeded beliefs. Your beliefs further influence your thoughts about the world around you. So, your beliefs are one of the roots to your success. Put simply – your thinking and your beliefs will, either fuel fear and cause you to abandon attempts, or fuel confidence moving you to action. Which do you believe will facilitate your desired level success, abandon or action?
Yes, it is true your beliefs have that much power. What you believe about relationships, risk, goal-setting, success and failure will either push you towards your dreams and goals or push them away from you. It has been said that the basic success formula is:
Belief + Time = Success.
As with any formula – the more of one addend you have, then the less the other addend you will need. In other words, the more positive belief you have, the less time you will need. The more positive belief you have regarding your success the more action you will take. Thus, the less time you will need in order to reach your desired goal. Remember though, the opposite will be true as well. The more negative belief you have about one or more aspects of your success, the more time it will take to reach your goal.
So, how can we ensure that our beliefs are empowering us to the level of success that we desire? Here are three tips that you can put into action right away to positively impact your thoughts, beliefs and everything they will bring into your world.
- Define your ‘Success Atlas’ for every area of your life; your business, your relationship(s), your finances, etc. Your ‘Success Atlas’ is your vision of your future and a set of goals that are designed to bring that vision into your reality. If you do not know how to define your success atlas go to http://SuccessAtlas.com and sign up for my newsletter and I will walk you through all the key ingredients you will need for a good Success Atlas. and I will send you my article on goal setting. Having your ‘Success Atlas’ defined will give you something to wake up to each day. This well defined set of goals will push you to take action and even put a smile on your face as you think about the compelling future that you are creating for yourself and those you love.
- Remove negative inputs from your day. All around you are various negative inputs that are slowly whittling away at your desire and passion to reach your goal. These inputs range from the television, newspapers, new broadcasts, some movies and music. Even some of the people in your life (yourself included) can be donating negative input. They may even be well meaning in what they have to share, but could be the source of negative inputs none the less. Not all of any one of these categories is 100% negative, but, many are and you need to deter as much negative input from your mind as possible. You need to make it a passion to eliminate as many of these negative donators as you can – ban them from your day.
The universe is an interesting thing in that as you pull out the negative inputs, they leave a vacuum. The universe does not like a vacuum and will look to fill that vacuum with something. If you keep pulling out the negative – all that it left to put into that vacuum is positive input. So remove negative inputs from your world and replace them with positive inputs.
- Dig, Uncover, and substitute the negative beliefs you have. What negative behaviors do you have? What negative things do you say to yourself and others? In and of themselves these behaviors and words may not be negative. But, given your vision and your goals they could promote behaviors and thoughts that are holding you back. Be totally honest with yourself in searching for these negative values and bad habits. Once again create that vacuum – remove them from your daily routine – and replace them with empowering words, values and habits. Ones that will push you towards your goals and dreams.
In defining ‘Success Atlas’ you need to create a powerful why. Creating a powerful ‘why’ for why you want to accomplish a goal or a dream builds up energy like an electric power plant. Much like that plant, the ‘why’ will pump energy through the ‘power lines’ of your mind. Energy just waiting to be released. Your beliefs have the power to flick the switch and brighten your entire life – or leave you in the dark. So, sit down, define your own personal Success Atlas, remove the negatives from your world, and replace your harmful beliefs, words and habits with empowering ones. As you mold your beliefs, they will flick on the switch; releasing your power plant of energy and brighten your life and the lives of those you care about.
Empowered Beliefs produces empowered action;
Empowered Action produces an empowered life!
Think Successfully and Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://WriteYourSuccessStory.com
Beliefs
Posted by: | CommentsIt seems like every day I meet new people that are afflicted with negative thoughts or beliefs that are keeping them down. This negativity fosters more negativity if left unchecked. They look around their world and say if only some one would give me a shot I could prove myself. I challenge them to TAKE the shot and prove themselves to themselves. Once they prove themselves internally then others will see their worth.
Recently I was sitting in a meeting where two associates where trying share their concerns. One said “We only got three of these in.” They other replied “That can’t be – I ordered four and they only come in sets of two. You must have lost them…” The second associate wouldn’t consider the fact that the vendor might have made a mistake and only shipped three, for she thought that would make her look bad – since she was responsible to insuring that four were there. She staunchly defended her position and the problem went unresolved.
Later I approached her and coached her on this situation and on how her negative beliefs had motivated her one sided response. Later I brought the two back together to discuss it once more. This time when she was told that only three were delivered she only asked that they reconfirm that only three were delivered and in the meantime she would call the vendor. Like magic the first associate said he would be happy to reconfirm the delivery and even came up with a couple more places to look for the missing piece ‘just in case.’
These two were battling with internal beliefs that they were going to look bad if their area of responsibility was at fault so in turn they were doing everything they could to push the blame elsewhere. Once one stopped believing negatively and pushing a one sided battle – immediately the finger pointing subsided and they began to work together towards the same goal.
This is the power of your beliefs – they will work for you or against you in your life, at your job – every where. So, in tomorrow’s blog post I will to share with you some thoughts on how to empower your beliefs so you can…THINK SUCCESSFULLY & TAKE ACTION!