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Beliefs
Posted by: | CommentsIt seems like every day I meet new people that are afflicted with negative thoughts or beliefs that are keeping them down. This negativity fosters more negativity if left unchecked. They look around their world and say if only some one would give me a shot I could prove myself. I challenge them to TAKE the shot and prove themselves to themselves. Once they prove themselves internally then others will see their worth.
Recently I was sitting in a meeting where two associates where trying share their concerns. One said “We only got three of these in.” They other replied “That can’t be – I ordered four and they only come in sets of two. You must have lost them…” The second associate wouldn’t consider the fact that the vendor might have made a mistake and only shipped three, for she thought that would make her look bad – since she was responsible to insuring that four were there. She staunchly defended her position and the problem went unresolved.
Later I approached her and coached her on this situation and on how her negative beliefs had motivated her one sided response. Later I brought the two back together to discuss it once more. This time when she was told that only three were delivered she only asked that they reconfirm that only three were delivered and in the meantime she would call the vendor. Like magic the first associate said he would be happy to reconfirm the delivery and even came up with a couple more places to look for the missing piece ‘just in case.’
These two were battling with internal beliefs that they were going to look bad if their area of responsibility was at fault so in turn they were doing everything they could to push the blame elsewhere. Once one stopped believing negatively and pushing a one sided battle – immediately the finger pointing subsided and they began to work together towards the same goal.
This is the power of your beliefs – they will work for you or against you in your life, at your job – every where. So, in tomorrow’s blog post I will to share with you some thoughts on how to empower your beliefs so you can…THINK SUCCESSFULLY & TAKE ACTION!
Changing Your Flow of Thoughts
Posted by: | CommentsWhile you are reading this I do not want you to think about your shoes (or your feet if your not wearing shoes). Through the entire article never at any time are you to think of the color, style or fit of your shoes nor the temperature or feel of your feet.
Why such a ridiculous way to start this article – well to prove a point. The first thing most of you did, of course, was think about your shoes or your feet. Even though you were specifically instructed not to, you did it for at least a moment. That is how the human mind works. When you consciously attempt not to think of a specific thought, you’ll generally think of it between 6 and 15 times in a 5-minute period.
This works in the realm of negative thoughts as well. Focusing your power on trying not to think negative thoughts can and will prompt negative thinking. View
thinking as a flowing stream of water, actually its more like a strong river. The current starts off as a trickle and builds into a rushing power that can erode the very earth it winds though. You thoughts are much like this river in that you cannot stop them. You can however change the flow to your advantage. Changing the flow of your thoughts is possible, stopping them is not. Changing the flow from negative to positive will keep that river of thought from eroding deep, dark, dismal ravines into your attitude, and into your life.
You can think discouraging, disheartening and depressing things to yourself; or you can think inspiring, motivating and rousing things to yourself, but again you will not be able to stop thinking things to yourself all together. So instead of attempting to build a dam for your river of thoughts, channel and direct them in the way you WANT them to go.
How? That is a good question, and in it hides the answer. You channel your thoughts in the direction you desire with, questions. However, your questions have to be empowering questions. You will cause yourself more harm than good by asking, “Why do I always get the projects nobody else wants?”
You want to ask a question or questions that will move you forward and empower you to take action. Like: “How can I accomplish this project and enjoy the process?” Now you have directed any negative thinking to a more positive flow. This positive flow will encourage action and give you results.
If you are tackling a big problem ask questions like, “How can I break this down into workable steps?” “How can I solve the first step, the second step and so on?” Or “What is the first action to resolving this first step and so on?”
Should you be going through a “bad” experience — if there is such a thing, for while we have experiences we don’t enjoy, are they truly BAD in the long run? Don’t we gain valuable knowledge and experience we can apply later? But I
digress. Let us get back to the topic at hand. If you are going through a “bad” experience, then channel your flow with questions like; “What can I learn from this experience?” “How can I grow from this experience?” “How can I keep this from happening to me again?” “How can I make lemonade out of this lemon?” (Remember Velcro was actually a failed experiment so was the glue that now is
used on Post-It Notes – both of these lemons have become sweet profitable lemonade for the inventors and their companies)
Now that you have asked your question(s) really let your mind run with it. Don’t just ask the question once, ask it again and again. Whenever you have a minute of spare time or when your alone driving home, seriously mull over the question and let your mind turn over to you the ideas and actions that will bring you to the positive results of changing your flow of thought.
(Oh, and remember don’t think about your shoes!)
Think Successfully & Take Action.
Tracy
http://www.SuccessAtlas.com
7 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem
Posted by: | CommentsI think you would agree that we all need, even want a healthy self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Both a healthy self-esteem and self-worth are crucial to our ability to live a successful and contented life. Many people will look to others, like their family, friends and peers to gauge their own level of self-worth. Many more will use their material success, bank accounts, houses, & cars to put a veneer on their self-esteem. What we all need to understand is:
- The most important assessment is how you feel about yourself.
The number of things you can do to boost your self-esteem is just as long as the ones you can do to deflate it. So, if you can, or are, taking steps to deflate it why not use that same energy to take those all important steps to boost it? By taking the steps to build your own self-worth and well-being, you’re practicing the best form of preventative medicine possible.
Here are the top seven ways to boost your self-esteem:
- Do things you love. Doing the things you love can actually enable you to get ‘high on life.’ The more time you spend doing things you love to do, the better it makes you feel. You will physically get ‘high on life’ because doing the things you enjoy causes your brain to produce higher levels of dopamine and Norepinephrine. Dopamine alters the brain’s speed for more focused attention and thrill sensations. Norepinephrine is yet another brain stimulator that gives more ‘oomph’ to even the most routine tasks.
Engaging in activities we love also helps us recall previous times we have done the activity. Recalling those positive memories increases our self-esteem. Your favorite activities are often things you do well, which is a factor in increasing our self-esteem.
- Strengthen your strengths. If you have read my previous blog entries or listened to my blogtalkradio show then you know I would rather you focus more on strengthening your strengths then your weaknesses. When you exercise your strengths, not only do you become stronger but your self-esteem rises as well. You naturally feel proud of the things you excel at and those things cause you to feel better about yourself.
Spend time working on, building, and renewing your strengths, and your inner approval rating will soar. Note: Just because you are not great at one of your strengths now does not mean you can not BE great at it with practice and effort.
- Surround yourself with positive people. Positive attitudes and energy are like an electrical charge carried from one person to the next via smiles, words and actions. When you spend time in the company of positive people, or your Junto Crew as I like to call them, your attitude will lift to match theirs. Even better is the fact that should one of your Junto Crew be down you can lift them up with your energy – this helping of others further increases your self-esteem
- Measure your worth based on yourself, not on others. We all see the world from the viewpoint of our own biases and past circumstances. When one person spews negative thoughts onto another, it is often a far greater reflection on their own deficiencies than that of the person they are attacking. There are two ways to be the tallest building in the city. 1) Build your building higher 2) Tear down all the other buildings. Choose to be #1
Evaluating your self-esteem purely on the opinions of others is never a good idea. Instead, take your value from what you know to be true about yourself. This inside out approach is far more effective and controllable then the other way around.
- Believe in yourself. Trust in your own internal ability to achieve what-so-ever you set your mind to accomplish. When you truly believe that you are capable of reaching your goals, you unleash your ability to do so from deep within. Start small if you need to and slowly build up to the unstoppable and unshakable belief, self-worth and self-esteem you desire.
- Set your thoughts on the things you want to attract. Knowing specifically what you want to accomplish and thinking about it on a regular basis tells your mind, “This is important to me.” This activates your RAS (Reticular Activating System), and your RAS will keep on the look out for information, situations and people that will help bring you closer to its accomplishment. Albert Einstein determined all things are made of energy and energy attracts more of the same energy. Focusing your thoughts and energy on those specific things you desire most in your life keeps those things moving toward you. Each step closer enhances your self-esteem.
- Affirm positive present tense thoughts to yourself. We have all heard the “Fake it, until you make it” mentality. Positive present tense “act as if” Affirmations work on the “Fake it, until you make it” principle. Instead of saying, “I want to be happy,” say, “I am a happy person.” Say it out loud everyday.
Build your own arsenal of positive affirmations to pull you toward that which you desire. As you begin to “reprogram” your subconscious to see it and believe it as the truth, you will soon be feeling that truth every day. *See my previous blog post on affirmations for detailed info.
There you are seven simple steps to boost your self-esteem. All seven are easy to put into practice in your day-to-day life. Start today to enhance your self-worth and self-esteem into the foundation of the unshakable character you deserve and desire. Do this and I can safely say – Your life will never be the same.
Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs http://successatlas.com/
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Reflection: Surround Yourself with Positive People and Positive Thoughts at all Times.
Posted by: | CommentsToday’s reflection is all about who is in your world and what impact they are having on you – directly or indirectly. You have within your sphere of influence any number of people that are putting in your head, thoughts that can either deter you from, or encourage you towards all that you dream, desire and deserve.
I purposefully surround myself with positive people. I do this because I know that my friends, colleagues and family members affect my thoughts. My thoughts direct my actions. My actions determine the outcome of my life, so in the end; who I choose to allow into my life can impact the outcome of it – directly or indirectly.
I am realistic in the thought of how much control I have over who I will come in contact with on a random basis. Realizing that I am bound to rub elbows with some negative people in the world during the course of my job, hobbies or within my community (both offline and on). However, I do have complete control when the time comes to choose people as partners, employees or friends. I make a point of choosing people who lift me up and encourage me to see the opportunities, the availabilities and the possibilities in life.
Let us be honest shall we? We all have had and will have challenges in life. Some of us will have far more than others, either in quantity or quality. But at the end of the day, not one of us is immune to having the proverbial log fall across our path. Some people will stand around clucking at the log, and there are many others who will be quite willing to stand there and offer you the warmth of their sympathy.
But is that what you want or even need… warm chicken?
I say no. The people that I call my friends are the ones who go for the chainsaw and remind me to clear the road. The true friends even help me clear the road. My best friends are those who go a step further and use that wood to build a bridge or a house.
They see the opportunity in every challenge and find a way to draw that out of both themselves and me as well!
Because you are much more than a victim of circumstances, you should surround yourself with people who feel the same way and help you make the most of whatever life sends your way.
Ask yourself these Self-Reflection Questions:
- How much careful thought do I put into choosing whom I spend time with?
- Who in my life is dragging me down?
- Who in my life is building me up?
- Does my attitude help build others up?
Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Success Coach
& Author of Success Atlas Goals Programs
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