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It’s early in the morning the house is still asleep, except for one of my darling cat that has come in from the rain to warm himself in my lap. The smell of this years Turkey is already starting to fill the house. Except for Maylan (the cat) and our newest animal addition, Shotzi (our Schnauzer) – I am alone with my thoughts and now you as you read this blog post. While I always have a grateful attitude towards all I have been able to accomplish and all I know I am about to accomplish, recently however, my thanks has caused a swelling in my heart and my mind that I find a bit unbelievable – perhaps this has been spurred on by the recent birth of my grand daughter Kyli or the loss of a friend in a recent car accident or my daughters fellow cheerleaders who were in that same accident – some of which are still fighting for their lives…. or by the show of support at the recent All Star Challenge Cheer Competition where teams from around the country showed their support and gave $10,000 to the families in their time of need.

Whatever the motivation, It is the quiet serene moments like this that provide the opportune time look back at what has happened, look at today at what IS happening and out into tomorrow at what allegra\\\’s generic I want to happen. Some time ago, I was sitting in my office looking around being thankful for the opportunity to work with such great people and give back. I called my daughter up JUST to tell her how much I love her – another thing I am thankful for. When I got home that night I gave my wife extra hugs and kisses – yes another thing I am thankful for. Recently, I was online with a few of my favorite people – people like you that I have met and learned from via social media and other online interactions. All these things big and small are things that I give thanks for on a regular basis.

To this day I do not know what prompted that original swelling moment of deep gratitude – but I have remained just as grateful ever since. This extra level of thankfulness has further improved my attitude, and helped me keep things in perspective as those bumps in the road come along.

Through all of this reflecting back, and visualizing forward I am EVER grateful for all that I have, have had and will have. I would urge you to do the same. Pausing for a moment to reground yourself by truly acknowledging what you have, not matter how small, will do wonders for your attitude as well as your outlook.

I wrote the following article on a Thanksgiving Day back in 2005 in the hopes of sharing this attitude of gratitude with those that might find it interesting– it still holds true today. Whether you do or do not celebrate the holiday of Thanksgiving I would urge you to start making every day a day of giving thanks.

When I joined the US Army back in the early eighties they taught me a number of survival skills. I learned to live off the land, navigate that land with just a compass, where to find water, where to find food and more. I learned to jump from airplanes and traverse terrain like a Billie-goat. But even the US Army, with all their robust survival training did not teach me what I have come to realize is in fact a real survival skill – thankfulness.

In all the books I have read on personal development, as well as all the seminars, DVDs, studies, journals etc I have found a unifying thought on thankfulness: “Be thankful for everything you have, while you pursue everything you want.” A simple truth, as most profound truths are, is that we should be thankful everyday for everything we have, everything we have received and everything we have accomplished (no matter how small).

As I look back over the course my life has taken, I realize that more than the years, and the experience they bring, resulted in where I am now. It was also my thankfulness that pushed open doors of opportunity, blessings and unique experiences. I am daily thankful for the lessons my parents taught me at an early age. Lessons that pulled me through some dark times in my life. I am thankful for close friends (thank you Robbie!) and a loving spouse (thank you Denise!) whose belief in me and my abilities NEVER faltered. I am thankful for the mentors that came into my life and impacted it even in the smallest way. I am thankful for the fortune 10 companies that I have worked with just as much as the companies with only 10 employees in their ranks. All of these brought me to where I am and to each and every one of those I am ever grateful.

I look around at the world today and see great things happening, about to happen or opportunities for them to happen. Of course I’m not so blind that I don’t see the concerns too, but to dwell only on that fact would narrow my mind on what the world has to offer. In my life time I have seen the downing of the Berlin wall, watched democracy win out over tyranny numerous times and seen New York City as well as the entire United States pull together in the worst of times to help their fellow man. No matter your country of origin, race, color, greed, background or culture all of you bring something unique to the table. You as a person, as a country and we all as a world should be thankful. Always come from a place of thanksgiving; look around and be truly thankful for what you already have and have done and you will see the wonders that come from one simple act.

Some tips on generating a thankful attitude:

• Sit down with a sheet of paper and a pen and write down how good you have it. Write down everything you are thankful for – no matter how small. Doing this will begin to develop healthy, positive thought patterns and mold your attitude into one that will be more thankful all of the time. If you have a spouse or children do this with them and you will be astounded by all the good things all of you can come up with.

• Look down instead of up. What I mean, is we spend so much time looking up the socio-economic chain to where we want to be, that we often loose sight of where we have been. Look down the chain, to past where you were to those less fortunate than yourself, and be thankful for what you have. Volunteer some of your time at a local shelter, home or food bank. You will feel better for having helped as well as be reminded first hand of all that you have to be thankful for.

• Give back monetarily. Pick a charity or organization that you believe in and give some of your hard earned money. In the book Money, Sex, and Power, Richard Foster says that “money desires to be loved, courted, desired and hoarded.” Giving back and giving away breaks the power that money can have over us. You will feel better for supporting an organization that you believe in and giving it away on a regular basis helps keep things in perspective.

Thankfulness is just that starting point, but it’s a great starting point. Being thankful will enable you to create more. Take the ability to create more and create more ideas for yourself than you need. If you have more than you need then you can share your ideas, even give them away. As the old saying goes, “Be fruitful and multiply.” That just doesn’t mean in the sense of population – it means in abundance as well. When you are thankful for what you have, and creating more ideas then you need that is one form of fruitful. With more ideas than you need you can share those ideas with others. You will be blessing your fellow man, your community and your world with your wealth of ideas. Once this starts you will be amazed at the results in abundance that will flow back to you. But it all begins with the simple act of being thankful. Be grateful for everything you already have, everything you have already accomplished and for everything you are about to accomplish.

Begin your act of thanksgiving this very day, then everyday afterwards – and watch the wonders begin to happen

Think Successfully (as well as thankfully) & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann

Consider this, one of the most important of motivators in a relationship, whether personal or professional, at work with your client/customers or at home with friends and family, is consideration. Employees report that the best friends and managers they ever had were people who considered their thoughts, cared about their feeling and about them as people as well as friends. These friends and managers were considerate enough to take the time to ask them questions about their lives, and to listen patiently while they talked.

The flip side of this consideration motivator is the demotivating feeling that the boss is inconsiderate and/or doesn’t 10 mg abilify care. This is almost invariably expressed in a lack of recognition, a lack of appreciation and a general failure to pay attention to the employee over time.

Consider this, the amount of time that you spend talking to and listening to a friend, family member, employee (or even a client) is a signal to that person that he or she is considered important to you, to the family and/or to the company.

To empower and motivate your customers, your suppliers, your friends and so on, you simply need to be a genuine, considerate, positive and cheerful person. Develop a positive thoughtful attitude. Insure that you are easygoing, friendly, patient, and open minded.

Remember, everyone is primarily emotional. Everything that people do, or refrain from doing, is triggered by their deeper emotions. Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to consider and connect with their higher and more positive emotions so they feel so good about you.

Here are two things you can to work these ideas into Your Success At Last:

  • First, get out of your house or office and go mingle with your clients, coworkers, friends & family. Ask them about their personal lives and concerns, and then listen considerately to the answer. You might be amazed at what you hear!
  • Second, resolve to be a genuinely positive & thoughtful person under all circumstances. Be the kind of person people feel happy being around and working with.

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann

One of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs

Over the course of my 4 plus decades on this lovely planet I have learned something very special when it comes to relationships.  My relationships give me strength and by sharing my thoughts and feelings with others, I build character.  So the lesson is quite simply: I am able to build both character and strength via my relationships.

Do not get me wrong, there have been times when I was too scared buy cheap Prednisolone online to allow others to see the true me. I protected my hidden passions, my unconventional thoughts, my deeply held values and parts of my belief system; all because I was worried that I might not be accepted. There were even times I shelved some of my core values as a result of these fears?  Have you?

Luckily, I came to understand that this fear is normal, and I bravely moved past being overly concerned about what everyone else thought.  This has enabled me to truly experience, and enjoy who I was – so, I could grow into who I am.  But more importantly, I have come to learn that the real reward was my increased ability to more intimately experience and enjoy all those that I formed and form relationships with.

Trusting in other people means that you will have share yourself with them. Not just the good stuff, you will have to reveal some of your faults and your foibles as well.  Revealing the chinks in your armor to those that you care about will allow them to more quickly do so in return. If you want to build character and strengthen your relationships, you will have to be brave for it takes courage to honestly invite others into your life.

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    True fulfillment comes from becoming connected to others and my inner self.

Each part of yourself that you share is like adding a new link in your relationship chain. With each new link you add you can extend yourself further to others.  So I urge you to constantly build that chain.

When others are in need, they know that I am there to help. Because I have extended a strong chain, they have come to know that they can reach out and grasp it. This is how I have built strong relationships in my life.  You can do the same thing, each and every day.  By sharing more of you, you invite others to open themselves up. You will feel more connected to the people in your life because you will come to see who they truly are. There in lies life’s truer reward: To feel bonded to good people.
Work hard to create fulfilling personal relationships. Extending yourself to others is worthwhile. You will deepen your character and strengthen your relationships by simply and bravely opening up to the people in your life.

Ask Yourself These Self-Reflection Questions:

 

  1. Do I bravely reveal my true self with others?
  2. How can I strengthen relationships with the people in my life?
  3. What do I love most about the close personal relationships I already have?

 
Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
Today’s Top Motivated Success Coach & Author of Success Atlas Goals Programs

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Over the course of your life you have, and you will need to continue to influence people around you.  You will want to influence some to see your point of view, some to execute tasks or work for you and others to buy from you.   Now, no one wants to be tricked into any of this nor do buy cheap Phosphatidylserine online they want to be taken advantage of.  So how can you sincerely influence those around you – without risk of doing just that?  Let me give you four tips on ethically influencing others.

  • Platinum Rule – Do Unto Others
    The golden rule says “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.”  I would urge you to take that up a notch to the Platinum Rule:  “Do unto others as THEY would like to have done unto them.”  One of the most effective ways to influence someone is to do something nice for him or her.  That is why you will find many successful salespeople taking their prospects to a meal.  During this meal the truly successful ones will not mention their products or services – but rather they will make small talk, pose questions and just listen to their prospect and their needs, wants, desires and passions.  This is a way of building trust and establishing a friendly relationship.  Find a way to do something nice for someone – because you want to – not because you want something out of it.  This will do wonders to build your influence with them.

 

  • See The Person First
    Some of the most influential people of today see the person first.  Before seeing them as prospects and customers they look upon them as friends and even partners.  These influential people look for ways to share helpful information and improve the lives of their partners.  They do so in ways not directly related to their products or services.  If they know one of their friends and partners has a passion for baseball and they come across an interesting article or trinket related to baseball – they send it to their partner.  This is just a small example but you get the point. See the person first, know what interests them and keep an eye out for how you can positivity impact their life with this knowledge.  By sowing these seeds you can, like other influential people, reap the harvest because these sown seeds trigger a desire within the partner to reciprocate. 

 

  • Please and Thank You
    Remember growing up and your parents taught you to say “Please” and “Thank You”?  Well these words of kindness still apply as you interact with those you wish to influence.  You should continually be on the look out for ways to say and down positive things for others.  This ranges from things like polite positive comments on their attire and appearance, to sending Thank You & birthday cards.  Something a little more elusive but VERY impactful on your influence on others – is to “Do what you say.”  Be a man or woman of your word.  Keep your promises and keep your confidences.  Further building the relationship of trust – sowing more seeds for you to reap.

 

  • Be a Go Giver
    Take a moment and think about all the statues you have ever seen.  What were they built for?  Where they built for people that spent their lives worrying about what they can get from the world.  I would argue that they were built to honor those that spent a majority of their time giving to the world.  To be like these impactful figures of our past – be a go giver – continue to look for ways to do nice things for others.  When you meet someone ask – “Is there anything I can do for you?” then honestly listen for way to put give rather then get.

 

  • Sincerity and Empathy
    All in all the more you are honestly open and empathetic to the needs of those you around you the more open to your positive influence they will be.  Building your character and personality with sincere empathy and sensitivity will enable you to accomplish far more far faster then you could ever dream.

 

All of this may seem a little bit sideways or even backwards but trust me when I say “The best way to GET what you want is to GIVE unto others.”  This heartfelt positive giving will move you toward the great success that you desire and deserve.  I think Zig Ziglar put it best when he said “You can have EVERYTHING you what, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”

Your Success At Last Exercises

To help you move towards Your Success At Last – here are two actions you can take NOW on these tips and ideas.

  1. Do Something Nice TODAY. Actively look for way(s) to do nice things for others.  Whether your friends, family, prospects or customers – the more niceties you do for others the more positive you feel about yourself.
  2. Truly listen to someone TODAY.  Take the time to really listen to those around you today.  This includes your fellow associates, staff and even that nice person that served you your coffee this morning.  The more, and the better you listen, the more and the better your influence will be.

 

Think Successfully & Take Action
Tracy Brinkmann
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