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One of the most perplexing, yet one of the most understandable rules of the world – to me is – your outer life trends into the direction of your inner life.  It makes perfect sense to realize that how I feel inside is going to impact how I handle things, people and situations I encounter.  But the perplexing side is that the very same rule tends to keeps you from seeing things as they are.  Instead your perception of how things are is colored by the direction of your inner life.  However, I have good news!  If you want to change what is going on in the world around you, whether that be your work life, home life, relationships or rewards then you need to change what is going on inside you – and this is the single factor in your entire life over which you have complete control!

I can hear you now “Wait a minute Tracy I thought this was to be about time management not a touchy feely emotional post.”  Well the starting line of time management is desire and motivation.  After all, I have found that most of us feel that our time management habits could use some (or a lot of) improving – which is probably why your still reading this article.  The kinds of people that take the time to read an article on time management have the desire so that leaves motivation.  The key to motivation is the ‘motive,’ or more plainly the benefits.  If you want to motive or fuel that desire to enhance your time management skills then focus on the benefits you will enjoy.

Wouldn’t it be great to have an extra two hours per day? Could you get more done with a 26 hour day?  Of course you could.  Think about how that little bit of time would add up… let’s see: Two hours a day times five days in a week (because you want to take the weekend off) equals ten extra hours per week. Now take the ten hours and multiply that times fifty weeks (Because you want to take a two week vacation) and you get FIVE HUNDRED extra productive hours each and every year. WOW – if you have a forty hour work week then you have just gained twenty four more weeks – WOW AGAIN that is three months.  So I ask you again – wouldn’t it be great to have an extra two hours per day?  Do you think those three extra months per year would change your life?

Okay okay I can feel the energy coming thought the website – I can almost hear you saying “HOW?” How can you get an extra two hours per day turning your 24 hour day into a 26 hour day?  Well here are a couple time management tips to get you those three extra months a year:

  1. Spend a few minute every hour and track where you are spending your time
    set your computer, cell l phone or egg timer to go off every 60-90 minutes then immediately make a few notes about where you spend that last batch of time.
  2. Review your list and see where your ‘wasting time’ – a few of those areas might be extended times chatting it up with fellow associates, television, personal phone calls, etc.
  3. Where are you waiting and doing nothing, when you could be doing something?  I personally bring notes, books, marketing material, speech topics, etc to doctors meeting and on road trips with me.  That way whenever I have some downtime in an airport, at the dentist office or any where I can pull out something I need to get down and work on it.  Heck I work while I am on the treadmill or stationary bike!
  4. PRIORITIZE – get the important done first!  When you start your day ask yourself what I HAVE to get done today.  Then set to getting it done – don’t go stray until it’s done or until it is at a point where you can no longer advance it further today.
  5. Delegate – sometimes it’s better to have someone else do it!  I really learned this in the revamping of my website – I can and could do it.  But it would not only take me twice as long but the results would be half as good as someone who specialized in website set up.  So I bartered some services and got what would have taken me a week or two, done in two days.
  6. Set Limits – there will be routine and/or regular tasks that you need to do, i.e. read and respond to emails, make phone calls, review reports etc.  Set yourself a reasonable time limit to execute these tasks then stick to it.  You will find that if you tell yourself – SELF you only have 45 minutes to do this that you will be far more focused at the task at hand.

 

When you utilize some of these tips to leverage the power of time management and get a sense of control over your time, yourself, your work and your life you will begin to feel like the master of your own destiny.  This will positively feed your self esteem and push you to new heights – these powerful positive feelings will have a definite impact on other areas of your life.  I mean think about it, you will have more time to spend as you choose.  You can spend it with your family, friends or other loved ones as YOU choose.  You will have the time you desire and deserve to build your business, your relationships or yourself both personally and/or professionally.  So follow the time management tips here and become a master of your own time so that you can get that extra three months every year to chase your heart’s greatest desire!

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann

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Imagine that your body is a car. Your fuel is obviously the food you put inside it, much like the gasoline you pump into the tank of any Ford, Chevy or Dodge etc. This fuel is converted into energy to propel you along your life’s course, physically and mentally. The car uses the spinning motion of the engine to generate electricity for the lights, radio, power windows, power brakes, sensors, air conditioning, safety equipment and so on. When you use more and more of these pieces of equipment on your car, your fuel is depleted faster and faster. Most of us have experienced the fuel drain when driving a long distance running the air conditioning on full blast versus how much fuel is used when the air conditioning on is not on. Or the drain on the engine when climbing a steep hill with air conditioning on versus much easier the car seems to negotiate that same hill without the air conditioning on.

These same principles work on you in your daily life. As you go though your daily activities your level of energy needs rise along with your fuel consumption. If your working hard on a stressful job you use up energy quickly and your fuel level decreases. Pausing for a good meal, pumping fuel back into your ‘tank’ raises your level back up. But one thing we need to know is that it is not always what we do that has a drain on your pool of fuel.

Every action you take of course has a drain in your pool of resources. But one thing many folks do not consider is actions you do not take can have a serious drain on your fuel tank, mentally, and emotionally. Taking away energy that could be put to far more productive use. Think about if for a moment, you get up early, take an invigorating shower, and you are off to work. You listen to good music or positive motivational material on the way to work. You are feeling great as you pull up to the office. Getting to the door you open it and there it is, the disorganized room that you have been meaning to clean up for some time. This instantly has a depleting effect on your energy reserves, bringing them down. To build on this, on your way to lunch later you remember that you need to get your oil changed, more than seven hundred miles ago. More energy gets drained away.

These are only a couple simple examples. What if you have parents that live more than a thousand miles away and you realize that they are not going to be around much longer? Or, you are working on that big project and keep putting off that one task that really is not the most appealing to you, yet is critical to the completion of the project. These are just a couple more things that will drain your energy away and yet you are not ‘doing’ anything. So you can see it is not only what you do that depletes your energy, there is also what you do not do. They distract you, make you feel guilty, and siphon away at your fuel reserves. All this energy would be far better used on accomplishing your goals.

If you flip open the hood of your car you will see power cords and fuel lines connecting the engine to all the individual components of your car. This same principle works in your life, all those inactivitys have a ‘power cord’ to them draining your battery of its precious resources. Watt by watt, gallon by gallon all these power cords and fuel lines to things like unreturned phone calls, needed oil changes, disorganized desks and homes, unappealing yet necessary tasks undone, late bills etc., all of these will slowly (or often quickly) deplete your fuel tank. What you need to do is sit down and identify and eliminate all this drainage from your life. Below I am including a few things that are common drains on your energy resources:

  • Spending too many hours in front of the Television
  • Car needs an oil change or other service/repair
  • Disorganized desk, office, home, garage
  • Clothing that is tattered or in need of update
  • Home décor that does not nurture your values/preferences
  • Negative people
  • Not being in a supportive relationship
  • Being in a relationship that needs to end
  • Working with people that result in you compromising your values
  • Lack of proper or needed office equipment
  • Overwhelmed with the mass of information that is bombarding you
  • Avoiding conflict or confrontation
  • Consistently stressful work leaving you exhausted/unsatisfied
  • Not enjoying your job
  • No personal interests that stimulate your mind
  • Having a health issue that you are not getting help with from a qualified professional
  • Not getting regular physical/dental check-ups
  • Partaking in food that is not good for you too often
  • Too much month at the end of the money
  • Paying bills late
  • Paying taxes late
  • No plan for your financial future
  • Insufficient insurance coverage (life, home, auto etc)

These are but a few examples to get you started on your own list. Once you sit down and compile your personal list of items stealing from your energy pool, count how many there are. Now do you see where a lot of your energy is going? While you may not be taking action on these, you will still be expending energy on them by way of them stealing it from you. Suppose the list above was your list and each one of them represented two watts of power. Now if you only have one hundred watts to work with each day, these twenty-three items would be stealing forty-six watts from your daily one hundred. Forty six percent of your energy is depleted as a result of your inactivity, leaving you with only fifty-four of your original one hundred watts. This will obviously have a serious impact on what you can get accomplished in your activities towards your goals, dreams and desires.

But now that you realize these are stealing away from your ability to reach your goals. You can reapply some of that stolen energy to get them accomplished and cleared off of your to-do list. The simply action of beginning to work on these items, that are distracting and draining you, will give you a tremendous relief. As you take care of these one by one you will begin to additionally feel a sense of accomplishment and a boost in your energy. This boost will be a motivating force for you to take on and clear off the next item. The action on the next item will again fuel your relief, sense of accomplishment and give you yet another resulting energy boost. Through the action on each item the cycle will begin again, until you have pulled the plug on all your energy draining items.

Imagine what you will be able to do when you go from fifty-four watts up to ninety or even your full one hundred. You will feel better, you will work more effectively and efficiently and you will get more done towards your goals. Mostly I personally believe the biggest win is that you will enjoy your life ever so much more.

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
One of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Sucess Atlas Programs

Many parts of your year will be filled with heart felt, long lasting memories.  But if your life (good or bad) is anything like mine – those long lasting memories quite often come with a matching level of stress.  The joy of a new baby comes with the stress of getting yourself and the house ready for that bundle of joy.  The pride of landing that new promotion was matched with the stress of the extra work (hours and effort) it took to get there.  The thrill and deep seated pleasure of a Merry Christmas (emotionally and commercially) is matched by the stress of planning and executing that Sunbloom Santa picture of the holiday.

 

The number of things that cause stress during your picturesque holiday season could include but would not be limited to:

  • Finances – having enough money to get the things you desire for those you care about combined with needing to know the right amount to spend on one so as to not upset another.
  • Pressure – beyond the knowing the right amount example given above.  There is finding IT once you know what IT is, then finding IT at the best price.  Finding the time to shop in our busy work lives.  Finding out what the right gift is without letting them know your trying to find out and of course the pressure bearing down on us from family, friends and the commercial machine.
  • Conflict – whether inside the home, at work or in the mall it does seem that conflict can rear its ugly head in a split second and when you least expect it, even though everyone tries to have the ‘holiday spirit’ that spirit can get pushed aside by the previously mentioned finances and pressure.

 

These are just the three core stresses.  There is just so much you are trying to get done in a very short period of time.  I mean it seems like one minute you are handing out candy to the cutest little princesses and scariest little demons you have ever met.  The next thing you know your planning, then eating a beautiful turkey dinner either in your home or the home of someone you love (or the family of someone you love).  Hot on the heals of that sometimes dramatic dinner, now you only have four weeks to make sure you pull off a Christmas (or whichever year ending event you may celebrate) that your family will enjoy and remember all the year through.  Oh, and lets not forget the year ending party to finish it all off.  Whew, I’m feeling the pressure just writing about it.

 

So with all that said,  let me try and give you five ways to lessen that stress, so you can actually let yourself create and enjoy a Happy Holiday.

 

Try some of these simple holiday shopping tips:

 

  1. Teamwork. Remember you do not have to do it all yourself.  Whether it is a spouse, sibling, elder child or a good friend.  Think about any tasks that you could delegate to someone else.  This can not only relieve some of your stress but could also provide a bit of bonding opportunity for you and the other person.
  2. Make a List. Think about the song you hear growing up, “He’s making a list and checking it twice..”  Even the best present delivery ‘man’ on Earth makes a list BEFORE he sets out in his sleigh.  This is great advice.  Your list will help you preplan:
    • What you are going to buy
    • How much you are willing to spend
    • Where you need to go to get it. 
      Knowing these simple things will help you mentally plan the best shopping route of attack – taking a lot of the stress out of the trip(s). Don’t forgot to put incidentals like decorations and food on your list if you need it, so you can cut down on the number trips you need to make – further reducing your stress level.
  3. Be an Early Elf.  A twist on the old saying “The early bird gets the worm.”  That early bird also doesn’t stress about going hungry.  Getting one item on your list done makes you feel good inside – further reducing your stress and motivating you to get the next thing done or bought.  So start feeling good early and you can rid yourself of that “Oh, my gosh I only have two more days..” kind of stress.  For those of you that are saying “But I will miss out on all the great last minute sales” I would ask you – have you really looked?  These days retailers are starting their sales earlier – so there is always a value to be found for those Early Elfs to look.
  4. Surf Your Holiday. Gone are the days when you HAVE to go to a retail store to get your gifts.  The internet has opened a whole new way for you to be Santa without ever having to leave the comfort of your home.  Even if you do not order your items online, you could take your list and comparison shop.  This is a great way to help manage your money.  You could even use online maps to plan the best route from your home to all the stores you have found that have the right price for you.
  5. Safety 1st. No matter what holiday you are planning and buying for – always be safe during your shopping activities.  After all, getting safely to the holiday would certainly be step one to it being a good one.  While you are out and about always keep your credit cards stowed until it is time to actually swipe them.  There are many camera toting people that would love to snap a picture of your card and use the info to make their Christmas shine and tarnish yours.  Do the same thing with your cash, keep it tucked away and only bring out what you need when you need it.  Flashing cash may make you feel good but it could attract the wrong kind of attention.  When shopping online try and stick with trusted e-tailers.  If you need to purchase from a site you are unsure of – do a little research before inputting your information.  A few minutes of safe thought could save you months of stress.

 

So, remember your teamwork, make a list, be an early elf, try surfing some or all of your holiday and always, always remember safety first.   Keep these tips in mind and I can say with a Merry heart that you will be able to cut much of your stress out of the holiday.  As for decorating the tree and the house.. well that is another article in itself. 

 

Have a VERY Happy Holiday – whatever Holiday you observe!

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy

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Face your enemy – Brainstorming

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During the course of my life, both childhood and adult, the military has played a primary role.  My father, a 20+ year military man, raised me in various locations all over the world.  Then, I myself did a tour of duty, serving my country and learning more things about life than I though I ever could.

No matter your personal position on those that serve in the military, you have to admit that this environment can teach you many things that can be applied in various roles in your life.  Even in your role as a businessman or woman.  Yes, it’s true.  Some of the key lessons I learned in the military I now apply in my business career and am all the stronger for it.

One such lesson is – face your enemy.  There is only one way to defeat an enemy, and that is to face him.  You see whenever you stand toe-to-toe with your enemy they have a way of appearing less intimidating than before.  They diminish in their ability to impose their original amount of fear or anxiety into your heart.  Often their ability to strike such fear will disappear entirely.

Now if you think of your problems in the same light, be they personal or professional, then they too can be diminished and conquered.  Here are the combat tactics for overcoming your enemies on the business/personal field of battle.

  1. Sit in a quiet place with pencil and notepad.  On page one write your major problem.  Avoid going into any detail, but state the problem simply in a sentence or two, three at the most.  For example, “I need a promotion, how do I go about getting it?”  Or maybe, “I’m too fat, what can I do to lose weight?”  It could be, “my business is stagnant, how can I make it thrive?”  Or perhaps you’re encountering a personal problem of some kind.  The problems of the human mind and heart are seemingly endless.  But they have two things in common.  The first is they are not unique but shared by hundreds, even thousands, or millions of others.  And two, they can be solved.  And solved a lot easier than you might think once you can clearly face them.  Once you have your first problem down on page one, go to your second problem, write it on page two, then your next problem on page three, and so forth, and so on, until you have all of your problems listed on separate sheets of paper.
  2. After you have all your problems listed on separate sheets, return to page one.  Review your brief statement of your problem.  Then, sit back, relax, and begin to think about the problem.  Only allow those thoughts that relate directly to your main problem to occupy this time.  While going through this careful thought process, begin to list all of the possible solutions that come to mind.  Do not worry if some of your ideas for solving your problem seem far-fetched or even impractical, list them anyway.  Often when an impossible solution is transferred out of your mind onto paper, it will suggest another solution that will be more apt to be the one you want.

What will this process do for you?  Well, first realize that when you have several problems and you continue to carry them around inside of you, they will never solve themselves.   They can, however, cause you to worry.  Potentially even to the point where they can even make you sick.  But once you list them, have them written down, you have changed your problems from internal worries into another form. 

Once your problems are in written form you can look at them and see what they are in the clear light of day.  This will put you in a much better position to defeat the enemy by facing him.  You will feel a great sense of relief once you have reduced your problems to writing.  The tension disappears, and you will feel as if a great weight has been lifted.

 

Now, you can take this same ‘face your enemy’ approach to problem solving, decision-making, and goal achievement by realizing that there are similarities between all three of these.  A decision that is to be made is little more than a problem awaiting a solution.  Decisions are usually a simple problem,  simple in the fact that we are rarely faced with more than two or three options.  Whereas, when faced with a problem, we sometimes face what seems to be an endless line up of alternatives.  And as for goal achievement, isn’t a goal merely a point we wish to reach?  The problem to be solved here is how to get from where we are now to where we want to be.  So, problem solving, decision-making, and goal achievement are all closely related functions of creative thinking.  It’s important that we keep this in mind as we review the steps of using brainstorming for problem solving.

  1. The first step of solving any problem (no matter how big or how small) is to define it.  You should always understand the problem before you begin to work on the solution.  Here, you can use the steps we discussed earlier.  Sit down and write out the problem first in a brief sentence or two, three at the most.  Review this statement of the problem, refine it, and add additional detail to it until it states exactly what the problem is that you would like to solve.
  2. Then, write out everything you know about the problem.  This information can come from your own personal experience, books you have read (which contain any kind of information including statistical data on the problem), or from friends and business associates who know something about the area in which the problem lies.  One important consideration here is to never confuse facts with opinions.  Make sure you know what you’re talking about and the problem is as real and as big as you think it is.
  3. Next, write a list of names of people and organizations that can assist you with this problem.  This list can be made up of people that are involved in the problem, recognized authorities in the area of the problem, or confidants that may have information you need to help solve the problem.  This is your opportunity to go dig in deep for facts. 

    Now you have determined who can help you, contact them.  Phone them, go see them, e-mail them or utilize any other method you choose, but contact them.  Pick their brains for all information they possess that can help you solve your problem.

  4. Take notes!  Be sure to take detailed notes of information you receive that is relevant to the problem you are trying to solve.  Do not take a chance of forgetting any little fact that could give you the solution you’re searching for.
  5. Personal brainstorming.  This is where you put your mind to work in individual idea creation.  Sit down, review the problem statement you wrote down in step one.  Review the notes you have taken in steps two, three, and four.  Now, sit back and think with the brakes of judgment off.  This is no-holds-barred idea generation time.  As your ideas begin popping into your head, do not try to decide whether they’re good or bad.  Just write them down!  And write them down as fast as they come to you.  You may find yourself having to use brief words, or shorthand of sorts, to get all the ideas down.  Perhaps have a tape recorder handy to record your words and transcribe them later, but whatever you do, get your ideas down onto paper.  Again, remember, don’t critique them, the time to pick and choose or rate your ideas will come later.  Right now you’re goal is a lot of ideas, so write them all down.

    There are four basic rules for brainstorming.  You need to know, and remember, them during your brainstorming sessions (be they individual or group sessions).  They are:

    • No negative thinking allowed – the wilder the ideas the better
    • Suspend judgment – ideas will be judged afterward during the rating process
    • A large number of ideas is vital
    • Combination and improvement ideas is what you are after

      It’s really important to write down every idea that you come up with.  No matter how far-fetched or impractical the idea may be, you must write them down.  You see, one idea often leads to another, and that to another.  One idea can be built upon, or linked to another, making it a better idea.  So, writing down even the far-fetched and whimsical ideas is as important as writing down the practical and convenient ideas.

      Once you have completed your personal idea generation session, go back and rate your ideas.  Rate them in two areas, effectiveness and facility. The effectiveness scale ranges from very effective, to probably effective, to doubtful.  The facility scale ranges from easy, to not so easy, to difficult.  Rating your ideas will clearly indicate the likely success of any of your possible solutions/ideas.  When you have rated your ideas, you can review them with a quick glance to give first consideration to those ideas that are both effective and easy.

  6. Group brainstorming.  Now is the time to put the minds of others to work for you. The group brainstorming session is handled much like your individual idea creation session.  The group brainstorming technique is where a number of people meet with a single purpose in mind, to think of as many ideas as possible, to solve one well-defined problem.  In this case your problem. 

    Between five and ten participants generally is the best size for such a gathering.  Studies show that any given number of people working on the same problem will be more than 50 percent more effective, (they will come up with at least half again more ideas than the same number of people working individually).  Along with a chain reaction, one idea leading to another, there develops a friendly rivalry and personal interaction that increases individual performance during the brainstorming session. 

    It’s advisable to let each member of the brainstorming session know in advance the problem to be worked on.  Be sure to give them as clear a written statement of the problem as you can provide, (which you completed in step one).  Knowing the problem, each of them can work from a few minutes to a few days on personal research and individual idea creation before the meeting.  When the brainstorming group gathers, ensure each member of the group has a pad and pencil.  This will allow them to capture ideas that might otherwise be lost before they’re able to present them to the group.  Assign someone to be the scribe, the task of taking notes, to record every idea that is produced.  Later, these notes should be transcribed and passed along to the brainstormers for further idea creation/combination.  Always have a leader, but keep the brainstorming session as informal as possible.  The leader’s job is to keep participants on task and keep the ideas flowing.  Often the leader will be the one who comes up with the first idea to get discussion going.  One good suggestion for developing discussion is for the leader to share his/her first idea, then move around the table to the next person, the next, and so on. 

    Before starting be sure to run briefly through the four important brainstorming rules.  The same four rules apply here as before in individual idea creation: no negative thinking, no criticism at this stage, you want a large number of ideas, and combination/improvement of ideas as well.  Once the rules are understood, let the brainstorming begin, attacking the problem from all sides and without let up.  You will find that there’s a chain reaction that takes place when the ideas start flowing.  It will be like a string of firecrackers going off one right after the other.  It is not unusual for ten people to come up with upwards of 100 ideas in ½ hour.  So expect results!

    Write down all the ideas the group comes up with.  Do not criticize during the brainstorming session!  Criticism is short death to brainstorming, and if someone in the group feels squelched he/she might be inhibited to share the innovative idea that could provide a breakthrough!  Save the rating for the end or for another meeting entirely.  Only after all the possible solutions have been written down do you screen them as you did before, for effectiveness and ease of implementation (facility).

    Let’s talk in a bit more detail about rating your ideas.  You’ve spent personal time generating ideas, gathering others, and they’ve invested their time in generating even more ideas. The final two steps that unfortunately are far too often under emphasized and slighted are evaluation and action.  We must evaluate our idea(s), then take action on them.  Even if the action is to scrap the idea, that’s at least an action!  These are the final two steps in the brainstorm/creative thinking process.

    Before implementation, ideas must be carefully rated.  There are many scales that you can choose to use.  I find the most useful are effectiveness (how effective will this idea be in solving my problem?) and facility (how easy/difficult will this idea be to implement?).  These two areas offer a good two-way screen for you’re brainstorming ideas.  If they don’t pass the muster here, the idea is likely to be a serious waste of time if/when implemented.  During the rating session, remember, you’re now judging ideas.  This is the time for cold, hard thinking.

  7. Hone your list down to those ideas that received the highest ratings.  Now rate these ideas in two additional areas time and cost.  This list will result in a rough draft, or schedule, to putting the best ideas to work.  Also rating these ideas in two additional areas could result in one idea being elected over another based on one or both of these new criteria.

    When you’ve written an idea into the action plan, decide who might do it, when it might be done, where to start, and how to do it.  These are important considerations!  Be sure to give yourself a deadline for putting your ideas and plans into action.  We work harder, and more efficiently, when we understand there is a definite timeline involved.  To this end, make a note of the date you must begin working your plan and the date you must put your solution into action (a beginning date and an ending date as it were).  Remember that timing is important when introducing new ideas so carefully calculate your ending date based on your current situation.  Does this need to be resolved sooner or can it wait until later?

 

When you think you’ve come up with the perfect idea, I challenge you to take another look around the issue.  Always try looking at it from new angles, stretching it, and improving it.  Use original thinking rather than rut thinking (remember a rut is nothing more than a grave with the ends kicked out).  This is one of the key factors that separate the creative thinkers from the rest of the pack.

 

For any problem, no matter how big, or how complex it may be, there is a solution.  All you have to do is find it!  And you can find it by organizing your approach, by attacking the problem methodically and with determination.  By applying your full brainpower, and by using wisely all the help you can get, You can solve it.

 

Think Successfully & Take Action.

Tracy

In 1941 Major General Hugh ‘Pat’ Casey designed the Pentagon in only three days.  Construction began thirty days later and sixteen months after that on January 15, 1943 this now world famous office building was completed.  The Pentagon is the headquarters for the United States Department of Defense and the nerve center for command and control dedicated to protecting the US national interests.   You have your own Pentagon of sorts within yourself.  This Pentagon, or Penta’tude as I have come to call it, has direct impact on your protection, growth and success and is made up of these five ‘tudes:  Multitude, Magnitude, Latitude, Attitude and Gratitude. 

Let’s take a look at each of these supporting walls to your own personal Penta’tude.

  • Multitude

As we go through our daily lives a multitude of opportunities present themselves.  However, a multitude of challenges also come along for the ride.  If you spend you time fretting about the challenges you will end up blotting out those opportunities.  To give you an example of what I’m talking about – take a dime and look at it at arms length.  Small, thin not to ominous.  But if you put all your focus on it and bring it in close to your eye then it will blot out the world as you see it.  Worse yet the closer it gets the more you loose focus and the more the edges blur.  Now you don’t really know where the challenge ends and the opportunities begin. Focusing on opportunities instead of challenges increases your chances at success, not to mention increasing the level of success you can and will attain.

  • Magnitude

This works closely with Multitude.  As you go through your opportunities and challenges in life and business, you need to magnify the important things.  Focus on the magnitude and impact of your core values, desires and major definite purpose.  Reduce the magnitude of challenges that seem insurmountable.  “Don’t make mountains out of molehills” apply strategic thinking and brainstorming techniques to breakdown those seemingly impassable obstacles.   On the other side of this coin, do not let one major win in your success make you think your set for life.  Every good businessperson knows that if your not growing your business then it is dieing.  Because if your sitting still while everyone else is moving forward then respectively your are falling behind.  Enjoy that major success; bask in the glow and pride it gives you.  Then sit down and plan for the next big win.

  • Latitude

This is your permission to dream!  You have the latitude to be all you can be, to accomplish any task that you desire as long as it is within the bounds of human decency and the letter of the law.  This is a liberating freedom that is given only to humankind.  We are the only creature on this great planet (that I am aware of) that has this ability to create it’s own destiny and then to fulfill it.  Regardless of your color, creed, religion, upbringing, or circumstances you can, if you decide to and take the necessary action, move from where you are right now to where you have always wanted to be.

This is the starting point of your success journey.  Whether you call it your disposition, manner, temperament, spirit, approach, position, posture, outlook or opinion your attitude has a major bearing on your level of success.

 Attitude is defined as:

  1. Personal view of something: an opinion or general feeling about something
    • a positive attitude to change
  2.  Bodily posture: a physical posture, either conscious or unconscious, especially while interacting with others

 Your attitude, feelings, or moods will infect or effect the actions, moods, and feelings of those around you.  If you face the world with a cheerful expectant attitude, the world (and those in it) will know you expect more from it and will perform accordingly.  If you face the world with a negative, down trodden attitude it will know you expect poor action from it and will give you those actions.  Remember that the world will reflect your attitude back to you.  Your attitude to the world will determine its attitude towards you (cause and affect).  So one of the main rules to a successful life is to know that the world is a mirror, often a merciless mirror, of our selves and the habitual attitude we carry within us.  

I saved the best for last.   As always the grandest rules are the simplest, like “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.”  The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more you have to express gratitude for.  You will never find a happy person who isn’t a grateful person, so gratitude is a marvelous place to start.  Expressing gratitude for what you have versus whining about that which you are lacking keeps you focused on the positive.  Remaining on this positive side positively impacts the four other walls of your success Penta’tude.  As we all teach our children, the magic word is “Thank you!”  You are a wondrous breathing, thinking, creating self-actualizing creature, take time to sit and ponder all the wonders that are already in your life, and how you can build upon them. 

 

Use these five key walls of your Penta’tude to build and secure your growth and success in both you personal and professional life.  Sit down now and review your current walls.  If you find any holes or weakened sections of your Penta’tude, give them all your focus.  Making this Penta’tude a part of who you are will do wonders for moving you towards your desires, dreams and major definite purpose.

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy

Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://SuccessAtlas.com

My previous blog post on time management seemed to peek quite a bit of your interest so I thought I would give you a few more time saving tips.  Do you fall into the trap of wasting time? If you do then you are literally throwing money away because, time is a valuable commodity and we all know that a commodity has a value! When you waste your precious time, you’re actually preventing yourself from achieving the things you desire and thus reaping the rewards that come from that – whether those rewards or monetary, emotional or recreational.

 

Here I have listed what I believe to be the top ten time wasters.  Take a look and if you find yourself spending too much time on one or more of these activities, try changing some of your habits so your time can be more productive and rewarding.  **NOTE** Only try changing one at a time.  Then as you see the rewards gained from saving time on that first time waster you can move on to the next one & the next one until you are a lean mean time saving machine.

 

  1. Worry. Many people will waste their time worrying until doomsday about every little thing in their lives. Usually thing that they have no control over and can not change in the first place or things that will never happen.  This is simply unproductive and bad for your health, mind, and spirit. 

    • If you have something worrisome coming up that you can impact, craft a plan of positive action on paper, then take action on that plan.  This will empower you and enable you to let go of the worry. After all, worrying along does not accomplish anything positive.
  2. Television.  We have become a couch potato society!  Many actually schedule their lives around their favorite television shows and spend less time doing more important activities like attending social events that could strengthen their relationships.
    • Record your favorite TV shows and watch them during your leisure time, or limit your TV intake to just a couple hours a week.  I would tell you to take it one step further – review the TV listing the week in advance and plan which ones you will watch. Scheduling them all at one time alerts you to the actual amount of time you are spending in front of the ‘boob tube’ and not with your friends, family and colleagues.
  3. Video and Computer Games.  This is becoming such a time waster that gamers are actually developing what is called “gamers thumb,” a repetitive stress injury.  I personally have to admit I am a victim of this particular time waster.  I have a couple games (Guitar Hero World Tour, Call to Duty 4 and Unreal) that have stolen precious time from me.
    • Set time limits for yourself and your kids and help your kids understand why this is important.  One of things I did to curtail my own gaming time is make my game time a reward to getting specific things accomplished; Finish mowing, trimming and edging the yard, get a ½ hour of game time, clean the garage, more game time, etc.
  4. Internet time. Are you constantly browsing the Internet, Facebook or Twitter? Are your kids hearing you say, “In a minute,” much too often when they ask you to spend time with them?
    • Keep your time on the Internet short and get involved in life. Instead of chatting with your online friends, spend more time with your real-life friends and family! (say this with a little bit of tongue in cheek as many of you reading this are my twitter friends) It’s all about balance.  I have days I spend a little bit of time on Twitter as I am working on other things and other days when I spend… er… um… more time online.
  5. Telephone Chatter. Sure, we like to call old friends and chat, but do you chat on the phone all day long? If you do, you may find that you get hardly anything done all day.
    • Keep phone calls to a minimum or set a timer to go off after 15-20 minutes. This way you won’t feel deprived of a good conversation, but it won’t take over your whole day.
  6. Traffic and Commuting. Some of us spend an enormous amount of time traveling to and from work. You can turn your commuting time into productive time!
    • Try carpooling or taking the bus, subway or train to work. You can use this time to read, plan your day, complete paperwork, or even relax your mind before a productive day.
    • If you drive, you can listen to inspiring and informative CDs or tapes to sharpen your mind each morning.  Of course I would say you should go to www.blogtalkradio.com/tracybrinkmann/ and download my episodes to your iPod or MP3 player to listen to.
  7. Hobbies. Yes, there are people who are so obsessed with a hobby that they don’t make time to do anything else. They rush home from work to their hobby, even skipping dinner.
    • If this is you, schedule your hobby time so you’re not skipping meals, missing time with your family, or cutting into other productive time, again it is all about balance.
  8. Daydreaming. It’s fun and healthy to dream about career ambitions or future aspirations, but when those dreams prevent you from taking action in your life, then you’re wasting time. Avoid getting bogged down with too much dreaming.
  9. Meetings. Although necessary, meetings can be one of the biggest time wasters of our workday. If everyone is wiped out from sitting in long meetings all day, productive time will be low.
    • If you’re in charge of meetings, set timeframes for them and stick to your stated time.
    • Limit the length of your meetings: keep needless chatter and agendas out of the meeting.
  10. Planning. If you don’t take the time to plan your day, the important things you need to accomplish may not get done.
    • Write down your daily goals and tasks.
    • Schedule your day in the order of your top priorities.  I would suggest planning tomorrow, tonight.  This will be the best 10-15 minute investment you will make. 

 There are many ways we waste our time in our everyday lives, but with a little effort, you can avoid time-wasting activities and turn that time into an advantage.

Think Successfully & Take Action! (And save time!)
Tracy

Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://SuccessAtlas.com

Your time is one of your most precious resources.  While we all get 24 hours a day, 99.99% of us do not know how many days we have left.  Do not fool yourself into thinking there will always be tomorrow – for one day tomorrow will not come.  Whether for your business, your next opportunity or for you actual life – there is a last day.  Always approach each of your todays as if it was your last one. 

Now because you know that your time is so precious and limited here are a few tips to help you milk every minute of your day for all its worth:

 

  • Invest some of your time in organization so you can maximize your day by being as productive as possible with every hour.
  • Let go of the idea that you can accomplish everything.  Instead, focus your attention on the few things that matter most to you and your goals.  Prune out the rest in order to do quality work on few things that matter without stretching yourself too far.  Be like the master gardener trimming a beautiful rose bush.  By pruning out the unnecessary stems – the rose bush as a whole flourishes and produces more.
  • Become clear on where you are going. By doing so you will find it natural to break down the steps needed to get you there.  Set realistic daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals Do it so you can accomplish what you set out to do in a reasonable manner. 
  • Remember, what is reasonable for you many be too fast or slow for someone else.  Set YOUR pace for YOUR goals.  Release the notion that you should be able to finish important projects overnight and, instead, give yourself the time you need to do an exceptional job.

 

We have many, many things we all need to remember: names, dates, times, tasks, and opportunities, to name a few. I personally use a planner (Franklin Covey’s PlanPlus for Outlook to be specific) and check it frequently because I know that by staying organized I am granting myself greater productivity and a more relaxed life.  I know that by following these tips and managing your time effectively you too can be more productive and happier with everything that you are able to accomplish.


Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. Do I recognize the value of investing time in organization myself?
  2. Do I take advantage of tools that are designed to help me be organized?
  3. Are the activities that currently use up my time contributing to the achievement of my goals?

 

Think Successfully & Take Action
Tracy

Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs.
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May
31

5 Ways to Be Assertive and Say "No"

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Are you one of the many that finds it difficult to be assertive and say “no” to people’s requests? Let us be honest, there just aren’t enough hours in the day to appease EVERYONE, so, the art of saying “no” without hurting the feelings of others becomes a very important skill to acquire.

 

Just because you need to say “no” doesn’t mean you have to be rude about it.  Trust me, there are plenty of assertive, yet polite, ways by which you can tell people “no” when the need arises.

 

Here are some ways you can say “no” without being rude or impolite:

 

  1. “No” to now, but “yes” to later. “I’m very busy at the moment. Perhaps someone else can help you. If not, I’ll have time later in the week to help you out.”  

    This is a great way to say “no.” It’s assertive, but also positive and kind. You let the person know there’s no way you can do what they are asking at the moment. However, you give them the option to ask someone else or wait until you have the time to help out.  If possible, I would even suggest who that other person might be – as long as you believe they could actually help.

  2. “No” unless something changes. “I’m very flattered that you have asked me. But, I am not currently in a position where I can that on. Perhaps we could talk about it another time in case circumstances change”  

    This statement says “no” while still being very polite. You let them know how thrilled you are that they have asked you, but then you are honest about how little time you have to commit to their request. You have also left the ball back in their court on getting back to you another time, rather then taking it on to get back to them.

  3. A definitive “No.” “I am sorry to disappoint you, but I am not able to. I am afraid that I will overextend myself.” This answer while still being very kind and polite enables them to understand where you are coming from.

     

    Here, you express regret for having to disappoint them, yet you still let them know that this is a solid “no.” Undoubtedly, they will understand you do not want to overextend yourself, which makes them sympathetic to your plight as well.

  4. “No” to attend an event. “I had a great time before, but I won’t be able to make it this time I already have something planned.”  

     

    At times you may get asked to an event you do not have time to attend or you honestly do not want to attend.  Do not feel you are obligated to go. This statement lets the person know you have had a great time in the past, yet you are already scheduled for something else or busy this time around. 

  5. “No” to loaning money. “I really wish I could but I make it my practice not to loan money to friends and family.” You let them know that you wish you could loan them the money, yet you go on to explain why you will not do so. Making it clear that this is the practice you have for everyone, and you are not just saying “no” to them personally.

     

    Money is often the one thing that many people ask for from their friends and family. It is a difficult situation and you walk a fine line to avoid insulting them or hurting their feelings. This statement is a nice way to be assertive and say “no” while still being kind.

 

For some reason, parents (and I speak from experience) all too often feel the need to always say “yes.” Whether to helping in your child’s classroom, working at a PTA function, or going to yet another classmate’s birthday party, you may feel like these are things you must fit into your already busy schedule.  Avoid that must feeling.

 

Remember, you can take control of your family’s calendar – and your sanity – by saying “no” to some offers that come your way. Saying “no” in a pleasant tone of voice will not lose you any friends; but it will allow you to set boundaries so you can enjoy life rather than racing through it.

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy
Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
http://www.SuccessAtlas.com

Today’s reflection takes on the stress we all encounter at work.  Whether you are a janitor, a jokey, a DJ, or work at home in your PJs you will encounter stress at the ‘office.’  The key is how you face and respond to that stress.  Your ability to respond appropriately is a HUGE determinate on the out come of the situation.

 

On the highway of life, work does not drive you. You drive your work by remaining calm and continuing to be positive.
When stress rears it ugly head, pause, breath (no really take a couple deep diaphramic breaths) and think or even say out loud: “I am in control of my emotions and my work. I am and will be successful because I am dedicated to my job and passionate about my life.”

 

When I personally get stressed, I pause and focus on the big picture – what is it that the team is trying to accomplish overall.  Keeping the big picture in mind will help clarify the situation.  I also try something a little different then many.  I like to play drums so when I get tensed up – I will often play some air drums to a favorite song in my head.  Or tap out that beat on the desk, my legs or what ever is within reach.  Last Christmas my nephew bought me a set of finger drums that are about 5” high and look like a full set of drums for a mouse to play.  They actually play.  I use them to tap out my beat when sitting at my desk.  Because I enjoy drumming so much my mind steers away from the stressful feelings and my body relaxes, enabling me to come back ready to respond as I need to.  Find out what your little stress recovery trick is – come up with some little method to get your mind relaxed so you can refocus positively and respond successfully. 

 

When you get to work or started at work, embrace your assignments with a positive attitude. Believe that: Challenges are a welcomed part of your life because they revive the creativity within you.  This positive focus and welcomed approach to new challenges will enable you to seek out the good in every situation. Challenges usually result in change, big or small, and I have found that the best way to handle change is to be a part of it, or better yet to be the one leading the change.

 

Always remember to stay calm under pressure. In my decades working in corporate America I have found many people have a monkey on their back due to lack of preparation and prior planning.  Do not let people continually come into your office to share their problem and leave that monkey that was on their back on your desk.  Another person’s lack of preparation does not constitute an emergency in your life. Appropriately stand up for yourself and know when to say no.  Of course I know there will be those times that taking on someone else’s problem monkey will be a required part of your duties – life is all about balance.  If you stand up for yourself and know when you say “No,” you will find fewer stress causing monkeys on your desk and more time for you to act on your success.

 

Drive your work; do not let it either drag you around, or enslave you. Again, here is where the big picture comes into play. I am happy to complete my work because it is valuable to me and it makes a difference to others.  When I get comments from my audience on how my article, speech or talk show inspired or impacted them – I am motivated to get through the drudgery that is a part of all jobs at sometime or another.  I am reminded what my best friend once said to me many years ago.  He was working as a janitor for a major trucking company in their Los Angeles hub.  His hours were long, his shift was in the middle of the night but at least his pay was good.  I asked him why he was doing that when he could do so much more. His response, “My wife works during the day, this job enables me keep the kids at home rather than day care.  I get to spend quality time with them during their development years and bond close with them.”  He had a big picture in mind, one where his children came first even over an office with a window.

 

The point of this article is that being in the driver’s seat leads you to enjoy life all that much more. Your optimism will keep you miles ahead of your obligations, because a positive attitude will cause you to be proactive about the things that need to be done.

 

Here are some questions to ask yourself about your attitude towards work, your reaction to pressure etc.  Answer them honestly and then reflect on how you can improve, even a little bit, starting right NOW!

 

Self-Reflection Questions: 

  1. What kind of attitude do I display toward my work?
  2. How do I react under pressure?
  3. How can I be more proactive?

 

Think Successfully & Take Action
Tracy Brinkmann 

Today’s Top Motivated Coach & Author of Success Atlas Programs
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