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I have learned over my 45+ years of life that fear can be one of the most crippling ailments to your motivation in reaching a goal, no matter how small or large that dream or goal might be. Fear allows your mind to run wild with worst case scenarios that quite probably would never happen if you sweated it out and simply took consistent action. The four letter word know as fear can, if you let it, keep you from taking the first step towards your dream or goal – and I have found that in 100% of the cases with no exceptions, if you do not take the first step towards your dream or goal you will never take the second step, because your fear will bleed your motivation out of you. So you will need to sweat now or bleed later.

The lesson of sweating now or bleeding later is another one of the valuable lessons I learned from the military that I have been able to apply to all areas of my life long after having left the military. In the armed forces they teach you, in a number of ways, that the more you sweat in peacetime, the less you bleed in battle. There in hides a lesson I was able to take and apply in everything I attempt. In the military they train and train and train, putting you through situations that you could face under fire. But then they take it one step farther and put you though the next level of situation in an attempt to prepare you for the most extreme types of situations that God forbid you would ever have to face. But this next level of sweating in peace time preps you for these worst case scenarios and enables you to face them with a more level head.

One less extreme example I can share with you would alli best buy be during basic training, when you are taught how to quickly remove your gas mask from its pouch and put it on correctly in seconds. We went through drill after drill after drill on doing this at times when we knew it was coming and times when it was a complete surprise. I remember thinking how fast I was able to do it with all this practice. Then we took a 5+ mile hike out into the woods to a small one story cinder block building which had ‘smoke’ coming out of it. We were told this build was filled with tear gas and were instructed to put our gas masks on. Then in groups of 8 to 10 at a time we were lead into the gas filled building. I remember thinking to myself how glad I was that I paid attention when learning to seal the mask correctly around my face. Once inside we were lined up and a few seconds later instructed to pull our mask off. WHAT??!! You want to talk about heart pound fear! None of us wanted to but we all knew we had to – and we were told that we all had to stand in that gas there until everyone did it AND until everyone took their first breath of the notorious tear gas.

I would love to tell you about how tough I was in handling this experience but sadly I am only human and the gas… well the gas is designed to be very effective. Let me tell you – I never want to experience tear gas again. Imagine if you will your face feeling like it is on fire as if sitting under sun lamp on high, then you eyes burning like all your sweat was pouring right into them. Now add to that an uncontrollable cough, the burning in your lungs makes you think they are going to explode. Then there is your nose – lets just say, the body can be quite effective at trying to push foreign agents out of the body and the nose will try to do this by flooding itself. You get the picture.

I can hear you now, “Wait Tracy what lesson could you have learned from this other then perhaps your fellow soldiers look really funny stumbling out of the gas house with faces washed out with tears and snot?”  Well I realized the value of the gas house lesson two nights later while we were sleeping in the woods and one of the drill sergeants threw a tear gas grenade. My nose got the first hint of that gas and my body snapped to being fully awake and I had that gas mask on faster then I had ever done it previously. Sweat now or bleed later.

The lesson of sweating now or bleeding later has stayed with me long since I learned it. When I was faced with the opportunity to compete at a national level in a humorous speech contest I could feel my fear welling up and impacting my usual practice process. I was avoiding honing my speech for fear of failing on stage. Odd as it might seem the act of avoiding the honing was surely going to result in my failing on stage. It wasn’t speaking in public in general that I was afraid of – it was speaking to an audience of people that I knew would want someone else to win. The friends and family of those I would be up against would be in the audience and I knew they wouldn’t want me to win, that fear was choking off my action. So I faced my fear head on by putting myself into a speaking opportunity where I knew the audience would be even less likely to want me to successful in giving my message. I arranged to give a motivational speech at the Gwinnett County Juvenile Detention Facility. I figured that if I could face this audience of teenagers whose lives had taken a turn that landed them in this facility, where they were being made to sit through my presentation – then I could surly face any audience I would meet at the Humorous Speech Contest.

Well to make a long story short – I was actually well received by both audiences. The teens actually appreciated that someone took the time to speak to them and had many questions to ask during and after my presentation. And while I did not win the humorous speech contest, I did learn that if you ever had to face something that you fear then you can always ‘stage’ a bigger battle then the one you have to face. If you have something hard to do and you are reluctant or hesitant to do it, pick out something even harder and do that first.

Apply this sweat now or bleed later lesson and watch what it does to your motivation when you finally reach that ‘real’ challenge!

Think Successfully & Take Action
Tracy Brinkmann
One of today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs.

As with anything you want to improve upon, whether that be breaking a habit, building your savings account, being a better sales person or giving better presentations, but you must first master the basics – walk before you run, tread water before you swim and of course practice before you present.  A perfect example of this is in my martial arts class – Master Jeoung would remind us constantly that we had to learn, practice and master the basics.  In Tai-Kwan-Do you would practice forms, which are a series of moves put together in a specific order to help imbed them into your muscle memory.  The seven fundamental moves in the first two forms he said will make or break everything else.  You can be a black belt easily once you master the fundamentals.  The same principle is true in public speaking.

One fundamental you must master to become a competent and proficient speaker and give great presentation is – Practice.  Now while everyone attempts to pound that into your head, I’m going to take it one step farther and give you a Practice Process that will greatly enhance your material retention as well as help you hone your public Cheap Cialis speaking presentation. 

This is not a process you can skip steps in because each step of this public speaking practice process builds on the previous step allowing you to build your speaking style and presentation technique into your speech as you practice the content.

Your Success At Last Public Speaking Presentation Practice Process:

 

  1. Read the material to yourself 5-10 times quietly.
    While doing this begin to make mental notes as to where you want to speak faster or slower.  Where to change the pitch and volume of your voice in your presentation.
  2. Read the material 5-10 times aloud.
    While doing this step practice the mental notes you made on rate, pitch and volume in your speech.  Test it out, change it, and hone it to fit both your material and your public speaking style.
  3. Make a voice recording of your practice.
    Now that you’ve practice the speech 10-20 times (5-10 in step 1 and 5-10 in step 2), make a voice recording of your performance.  I say performance because if you sit down and read it into the tape recorder then you’ll get a different speech.  Are you going to sit and read your message to your audience?  If you said no, then you need to stand and present your speech to your recorder in the same active manner your audience will receive it.  Listening to this recording will give you more insights.  You’ll notice things that you’ve missed during your previous readings.  Make changes, practice them a couple times and record yourself again.  Do this until you are comfortable with how you sound.
  4. Practice your presentation in its entirety in front of a mirror.
    Here you’ll begin to focus on your facial expressions, your posture, gestures etc.  Public speaking isn’t just speaking, they are looking at you too!  Put in effective gestures and expressions at those key and impactful moments of your speech – you want get to your audience both visually as well as audibly during your presentation.  Again, make changes, and practice them until you are comfortable with the results and the body language is fluid with your speech.
  5. Video tape yourself. 
    This one will sometimes take you all the way back to step 3 or sometimes even 2.  Watching yourself in the mirror is one thing.  You are involved in your speech and can miss little things.  But when you use videotape, you are performing and that’s it.  So now you can go back and review that performance and hone it to the public speaking razors edge you are striving for.
  6. Give a practice performance to a safe audience. 
    This safe audience could be a family member, close friend, or trusted associate.  I found a great place for my practice presentations – Toastmasters.  Here a group of people, who want to improve their speaking skills, gather to present to, and constructively critique one another.  When you present to a willing party, be sure to be open minded when receiving the response to your performance.  Don’t put up your defenses when they make suggestions – because that’s what you want.

 

This process may seem long the first couple times you go through it.  But if you make it a habit to follow all these steps, then each and every one of your public speaking performances will be the best it can be.  And your audience will thank you for that!

Think Successfully & Take Action
Tracy Brinkmann
One of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs.

May
07

Get focused

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On your journey along your personal development path I once again cannot focus you enough on your ability to speak, one-on-one as well as to a group.  It makes no difference the size or scope of your audience.  Whether you are giving a million dollar presentation to the board, stressing the benefits of your product/service to a group of people or a parent passing along life lessons to your children – your ability to speak to an audience will have a huge impact on your growth personally as well as professionally.  One thing that every audience will appreciate from you as a speaker is focus

In order for you to get focused in on your topic you will need the following three things:

  1. A Message
  2. An objective
  3. Knowledge of your audience

 

  • Message – sit down and write a single sentence that states what you want your audience to focus on and remember.  Make sure it is simple.  Make sure it is clear.  This will become your overriding message and theme of your presentation.  Whether that message is three minutes or 30 – your message needs to be repeated throughout your presentation at least six times and most importantly driven home at the end of the speech.  Weave it throughout your talk like a binding thread to insure your audience focuses on the message.  Know this; if you cannot focus the overriding message down into one sentence – your audience will probably not remember the message you trying to convey!

 

  • Objective – Going into your presentation you should know the answers to questions like; do you want to motivate your audience? Entertain them? Inform them? Gather input or sell a product?  Sit down and answer this question – I want the audience to…from your own answers you will be able to focus your talk.

 

  • Audience – In previous posts I have stressed the benefits on knowing your audience.  Why are they interested in this topic?  How you motivate a group of college students to save for their future will be far different then how you motivate a group of thirty-something business professionals that are parents.  So be sure to focus your message to their needs and issues.  Be sure to sincerely communicate to them how the action you want them to take will benefit them.

 

Gaining this focus early on in the creation of your presentation will guide you as you prepare the material.  When prepare a talk knowing these three essential pieces of information the speech will begin to take a life and flow that makes sense.  Attempting to write the speech without this information will fracture your focus and cause you to struggle harder for what makes sense to share.  You will risk spending time on talking points that are irrelevant and will loose your audience.  Give them what they want, give them what they need and stay Generic Cialis focused.

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann

One of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs

First lets set the record straight. 
It should really be called ‘before getting on stage fright.’  At least for me all – ok well most – of my fears hit before I get on the stage. Once I’m up on stage BOOM I’m in the zone and you can be too. Stage fright is that wonderful feeling of nervousness that Propecia without prescription occurs when you consider, or know your going to have to partake in, a speaking event.

Let me give you a couple tips on how to handle stage fright.  Mind you I did not say get rid of it.  For any speaker that states they have zero stage fright is either lying or in denial.  Top performers in the world get stage fright so know that you’re in good company.

Tips for taming the Public Speaking Stage Fright Beast:

  • THINK of stage fright in a positive manner.  Fear can either enable you or disable you.  Letting it enable you will make your wits and reflexes sharper.  Fear as a friend will boost your energy level, put a gleam in your eye and even some color in your cheeks.  I have found that when I’m nervous I am more consciously aware of my pacing, posture and breathing.  This allows me be more in control of my body, enhancing my presentation.
  • BEFORE you’re on stage doodle, draw things you’d like to have (I draw my dream Harley!).  Review your notes.  Yawn – yes yawn – this relaxes your throat. Try and find other things going on during the meeting/event that you can work into your presentation.  Double check the equipment you’ll be using. Talk to other people (this way you know your voice is ready to go).  Double check how you look in a mirror.  All this will engage your mind in more productive thinking and away from those on stage nightmares it’ll come up with if you let it.
     
  • ON STAGE, keep notes in your pocket.  This will prompt your brain to remember your material (I already know your practicing a lot so I won’t remind you of that.)  If your notes are in your hand while your nervous the audience could see them shake and you’ll most likely use them simply out of that nervousness.  Make eye contact with your audience, especially those warm and friendly faces.  Talk to that one person for a moment, and you won’t feel so alone and isolated.  Never mention your nervousness, and I bet no one else will either.

 

There you have it THINK BEFORE ON STAGE.  Know that you can gain control of your stage fright.  That control can become a powerful ally to you on stage.  No one has ever died of stage fright so I’m sure you’ll be quite safe if you’ve practiced, practiced, practiced.  Because being well prepared will be the greatest thing you can do to overcome stage fright.  But feel free to try these other suggestions as well.


Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy

On of Today’s TOP Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs

As I know many of my readers are solo-preneaurs, small business people and even corporate leaders, I thought it wise to occasionally give time to the number one fear of business people… Public Speaking.  This one skill can have so much impact on your career, your self esteem and your life.  So Let’s cut right to the chase of this post by focusing on the most important part of your speech or presentation….the AUDIENCE!

There are five ‘P’s in motivating your audience. Whether your audience is a room of fifty to five hundred, an employee or a prospective client, you need to take them through these five ‘P’s to motivate them.

  • PAY ATTENTION - First on the list is to ensure they are paying attention to you. Before you can motivate anyone they have to listen to you. In today’s world of voice-mail, email, snail mail, text, telephone, cell phone and headphones, it is getting harder and harder for one to listen and be listened to. The reasons people do not really listen are numerous and include things like being preoccupied with work or family issues. Or perhaps they have a physical limitation such as hearing problems, which could be compounded by external noise. Then there are internal reasons, such as the listener does not see the obvious benefits of what you are sharing, or worse they though they heard you say something you didn’t.
    • To help your audience listen:
      • Be enthusiastic!!
        In studies done at Stanford University 15% of successful sales were the result of knowledge. But a whooping 85% were the result of good old enthusiasm.
      • Speak to them in their language. Using five syllable words that one only learns in university (and only uses there) can quickly loose a majority of your audience – or again they could assume the meaning of the unknown word and walk away with a completely different message from buy cheap Prinivil online what you were trying to communicate.
      • Start off your speech/conversation/presentation by getting them to think right away. This works even better if what you get them engaged in links directly to your message. In a recent seminar I gave I was sharing with the audience how what you think affects how you feel. I started off the presentation by getting the audience to stand up and act as if they were wearing a super-hero cape. To imagine they had on the classic crime fighter’s long flowing red or black cloak. Of those willing to really engage in the exercise, you could see the transformation on their faces and chests (as they puffed out).  Get them involved in your message quickly!
  • PERCIEVE - Ok they are listening, but what if they cannot grasp or perceive your message? Well then they will be stuck on the first P – pay attention. If they get stuck on that first P for too long you will loose them. To help your audience understand your information, be sure to organize it in an easy to understand format. Keep your main points limited to three or four, most will not remember more than four anyway. Another good way to improve your audience’s perception of your material is to theme it.   Keep your eye out for my upcoming post on Themeing your presentation.
  • PERSUADE - They are listening and even understanding. Next you need persuade them. They need to accept what your sharing as fact and believe it as such. The key ingredients to your believability are your credibility, your passion and your logic. When you mix these ingredients into your presentation your audience will be more likely to believe you and to be persuaded to your call to action – more on that in a moment. On credibility – always stand on firm solid factual ground – if your facts are questionable share that. Then share your position on why you’re including the facts. This level of disclosure will keep you out of trouble and give the audience a level of comfort with you and your material. As for passion – well this comes back to being enthusiastic but it also speaks more towards reaching in and making them feel your words with appropriate stories and analogies.
  • PRESERVE - Here is a pivotal issue that we all tangle with – getting people to remember the information. Some key ways to get your material preserved in the minds of your audience are: Repeat, repeat, and repeat. Tell them what your going to tell them, tell them, then tell them what you told them. Use visuals and get them involved in the material. People tend to remember, 20% of what they hear, 30% of what they see, 50% of what they hear AND see. But most importantly they remember 80% of what they hear, see AND do. Create an activity that gets the audience involved. An activity that will allow them to not only reach the same conclusions you are presenting. But it allows them to do it for themselves. While someone may argue your position – they generally will not argue there own.
  • PROCEED - Get your audience to proceed with some action! So many times I listened to outstanding presentations and outstanding presenters that walked away from their speech without giving their audience a call to action. Do not walk away from your audience without giving them a call to action. Your listeners will be far more likely to take that action if you directly ask them to. They will be more likely to take action if you ask them to right away while they are still motivated by the preceding four ‘P’s you have built upon to get them to this point.

Again, whether your audience is a room of fifty or five hundred, an employee or a prospective client, you need to take them through these five ‘P’s:

Get them to PAY ATTENTION

Make sure your audience can correctly PERCEIVE your message

PERSUADE them to your side

Format your information so it can be PRESERVED in their memory

Give them a call to action so they can PROCEED the way you would like them to.

Follow the five ‘P’s and you will be PERFECTLY PROUD of the PRESTINLEY POLISHED PRODUCT!

Think Successfully & Take Action!
Tracy Brinkmann
One of Today’s Top Motivated Coaches & Author of Success Atlas Programs